Post # 1
I am currently worried about what to serve for my reception. It will be outdoors at a beautiful vineyard in Cali, the temperature will probably be around 70 degrees (so not too hot or too cold).
The caterer I am looking at using does both live grilling bbq and attended buffet. I don’t know which one to do! They are extremely well rated and I have a small party of about 75 so I’m not too worried about the food getting cold.
Personally, I would LOVE to go to someone’s party and eat a great steak and a great cut of fish/lobster. However, after looking at some posts here, a lot of people seem to not like it when “fancy” food is served at a wedding reception. I have some weird worry now that my guests would have preferred to just have a burger or something!
I’m wondering if:
1) I should just end up serving bbq or other similar casual food
or 2) if I should serve the nice meat courses but possibly insert some casual comfort food such as mac n cheese or a mashed potato bar
Either way, there will be some nice appetizers, a pasta bar, salad, and veggies, and the overall reception will have a chill vibe.
Post # 3
@rawrrawr: nothing better than a good surf n’ turf. I would be sooooo stoked. AND mac n’ cheese? Damn…can I come?
Post # 4
@rawrrawr: Wait… what threads are you reading where people don’t like fancy food? I know there are a lot where people say you don’t HAVE TO have fancy food… but who’s gonna say no to surf n’ turf?
Post # 5
A good steak and mac n cheese… Count me in!
Post # 6
I read some threads about the best wedding foods people have had, and it seemed to come up a lot that people would have totally prefered to eat some bbq because fancy dinners seemed too hoighty toighty. Hopefully since we are going to have servers helping out at our buffet it will seem like a mix of both worlds.
Then I started to read some threads where people refused to eat certain foods served at receptions because they were picky eaters…so I started to question having seafood as an option…
I think I’m just unnecessarily stressing myself out while picking out my catering menu =P
Thanks for your help guys!
Post # 7
I really wanted steak at my buffet, but I have read in a couple of places that steak can be tricky cuz it tends to keep cooking once it’s in the heating trays and tends to dry out. other then that I really prefer a good old steak over bbq, it’s less messy!
Post # 8
Unless the steaks are being cooked to order, I’d rather have BBQ. I like my steak pretty rare and it seems impossible to get it cooked that way at events. If the steaks are going to be cooked en masse it will be impossible to accommodate everyone’s temperature preferences, and IMO there is no wedding food worse than an overdone steak!
As for “fancy food” the problem is that it doesn’t always translate well when cooked and served en masse. Even if it’s amazing at your tasting, they probably just cooked it (it hasn’t been sitting in the back of the house in chafing dishes) and they only had to make 2 servings vs. 75 servings at your wedding. I actually love fancy food, but my Darling Husband and I go to fine restaurants to get that, not weddings.
The foods that taste the best when made for a crowd tend to be more casual foods, like BBQ.
Post # 9
@rawrrawr: I’d do a BBQ people can be really fussy about steak (I know my husband really is) and so it seems like a poor option. With BBQ and buffet people could have more than one plate as well.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@rawrrawr: I eat anything when it’s something I don’t have to pay for. I love BBQ but I also enjoy a good steak. I agree with @sailor: It’s not really that the fancy food isn’t good, it’s just that it’s difficult to serve high quality fancy food in large quantities. Plus, as much as I lvoe omlet stations and meat carving stations, I hate having to wait for my food so waiting for a steak to be cooked to order at a wedding would make me impatient (especially if I already had to wait for the food to start being served and wait in line for my steak.)
Post # 11
A good steak and nice seafood get my vote over BBQ any day. Then again, I’m just a tasty steak kind of gal (though I’m pretty tempermental about how its cooked and steak or seafood that’s been sitting around in a heating pan is never tasty). Is an attended buffet like a carving station type of thing?
Post # 12
These are pretty good points, I’ll have to talk to my vendor about how they are cooking it when they get to the venue.
The attended buffet is (I believe) a mix of servers for the buffet and carving station/live grill depending on what you choose fo the menu.
Post # 13
Both sound amazing tbh!!
I’m doing bbq and my guests couldn’t be more excited.
Post # 14
The only issue is that the fancier meals, especially the protein part (steak or fish) often don’t end up feeling as fancy or tasting as good when they’re cooked for a large amount of people all at once. Many fancier foods, like steak/fish for example, are delicate things and people have a lot of preferences about them and expectations that are not always met by a caterer’s mass-cooked version, whereas bbq/hamburgers are harder to screw up and easier to do well for a big group at one time.
Based on your average caterer, I’d rather have bbq if it wasn’t too messy. If they are really magical with their steak, I’d rather have that, but knowing nothing about them, I’d lean bbq.
Post # 15
I am one of few people who just doesn’t dig steak. I’d be stoked for BBQ!
Post # 16
Both sound good to me, but I’d probably prefer the “fancy” food!