BBQ wedding after destination wedding? Help!!

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should we have the BBQ, do a hall, or not reception at all?
    BBQ sounds great! : (30 votes)
    94 %
    Do the hall! : (2 votes)
    6 %
    No worries, no reception. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    42082 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @CWoehrmann14:  There is nothing wrong with having a fun, casual reception. Have what you like and what you can afford and your guests will be happy too.

    When you get to planning the details, do a search on Pavilions here on the Bee. There have been many previous posts.

    Post # 4
    189 posts
    Blushing bee

    Are the guests going to be local? If I was a guest and had to travel for both Id just pick one to come to. Otherwise it seems ok. I think as long as you make it feel alittle more wedding-y and not another backyard bbq. I wouldnt mind. Make any sense?


    Post # 5
    8847 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    That sounds awesome.  I would way rather go to a nice park and eat BBQ in the sun than eat in some indoor hall thing.  Who doesn’t like BBQ, really?!

    Post # 7
    1793 posts
    Buzzing bee

    BBQ rocks and I would be thrilled to be invited to a reception that was serving it.  Have GOOD sturdy plates, lots of heavy duty napkins, and decent quality flatware and you will be fine.

    Post # 8
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Do it! I’m pretty much always looking for an excuse to attend a BBQ. I’d prefer if I could dress casually, but I’d slap on a sundress or something if it was a wedding reception. 

    Post # 9
    7282 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @CWoehrmann14:  Are the guests that are invited to the BBQ also invited to the destination wedding?

    Because if they are not to me these things seem gift grabby. To me it is like being told you are not good enough to be invited to my actual wedding but come and give me a gift at my reception.

    And before you say you don’t want gifts/don’t execpt gifts everyone knows that etiquette wise a guest should bring a gift and most will.

    Post # 10
    3389 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think you should! What a great idea to have a casual fun party for those that couldn’t attend your DW. I Love BBQ! 

    Post # 11
    7664 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I think a BBQ sounds great. We’re thinking of doing this in a few weeks for people who couldn’t make our wedding. My only criticism of BBQ is that sometimes there aren’t enough vegetarian/ healthy options like salads and quiches. So I’d bring lots of fruit and veg as well!

    Post # 12
    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think a BBQ is a great idea, but I may be partial…. 🙂


    My hubby and I had a private elopement ceremony in late June and are having an intimate (30 closest friends and family) reception at a rented home on the Lake Michigan shoreline.  There is a pool for kids to enjoy, and we will have catered in pulled pork, chicken, and all the fixin’s.  It will be casual but wedding-esque…Table linens, wildflower bouquets, dessert table including a “cutting cake” and wedding favors for all the guests.

    I think a BBQ is a casual and intimate way to celebrate with those near and dear, while still comfortable and with less fuss. 

    Good luck!

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