(Closed) Be a bridesmaid if you were having a baby 6 months before wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you say if you were asked to be a bridesmaid while pregnant?
    Say yes because I don't think it will matter (being pregnant and having a baby) : (62 votes)
    83 %
    Say no because I know I will be busy with the new baby as it is : (9 votes)
    12 %
    Other (Please explain in the comments) : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would still be in it, it’s 6 months after not days. It just depends on the person, if you rather be spending time with your baby then do so.

    Post # 4
    456 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think it definitely matters that you are having a baby and want to spend time with the baby but 6 months is plenty enough time to spend with a baby and still prepare to be a bridesmaid . I would do it hands down. You could easily get a babysitter by  6 months old and the baby would be ok. It would be much harder if it were within a month to two months of having a baby. Those are the harder months. But I think it can be done after 6 months.

    Post # 5
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think I’d be fine to be a bridesmaid at 6 months. If the baby was only a few weeks old I’d probably pass, but 6 months seems okay.

    Post # 6
    1226 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Not impossible, but it depends on how you feel about it… I think I would still do it, especially if she is a good friend of mine


    Post # 7
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would appreciate being asked, and then have it left up to me whether to accept or turn down based on my own judgement of my circumstances. I would probably be hurt if I found out that a friend who would have otherwise asked me decided not to because of a pregnancy/young baby. The part that would bother me is having someone else make that decision for me.

    Post # 8
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If it was for a close friend I absolutely would. One of my best friends and bridesmaids was in my wedding 4 weeks after she had a baby. I told her it was up to her, but she said she wouldn’t miss it for the world.

    Post # 9
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    One of my closest friends had a baby this week. She will be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding in Feb.

    Post # 10
    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man is having a baby 3 months before and she is completely fine with it (and any dress alterations she may need). when she told me she was prego she was like “don’t worry i wont be preggers at the wedding” sweet on her part, but totally not a concern for me!

    Post # 11
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I would only do it if it was a real close friend. Because there’s going to be all the pre-wedding events and things to do while you’re either very pregnant or the baby is very young.

    Post # 12
    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would probably discuss with the bride first to see what her expectations are.  If she is laid back and easy going, and understanding that sometimes things come up and I might not make it to a pre-wedding event, then sure, yeah, I’d do it.  If the bride seems to think it’s ok to demand that I drop what I’m doing in my life and help her with 100 arts & crafts, or if I’m required to be at 3 bridal showers and an expensive out of town bach weekend and the dress is $300… well I might have to bow out of that one.  Actually, I’d probably bow out anyway since that’s not the type of person I need in my life, baby or no baby…

    Post # 13
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If I’m close enough to the person asking to even be asked, in the first place, then I would say yes if it was a week after giving birth. I wouldn’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for anyone that I’m not close with.

    Post # 14
    2433 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    As long as I could figure out a baby-sitting situation (might be trickier if it is out of state), I would do it. The only thing I would see as possibly tricky is getting a dress in the right size. Maybe order 1 – 2 sizes larger than you typically wear, and plan on finding a seamstress who could quickly alter it for you six weeks or a month before the wedding. 

    Other than that, I would definitely say yes — especially if it was a close friend.

    Post # 15
    328 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You could totally do it, just make sure you have someone to watch your baby at the time of the wedding! 

    Post # 16
    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    It depends – I would talk to my friend and ask her what her expectations were of me as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. If she wanted me to go with her to dress fittings, throw a shower, be at all parties, etc – I’d probably decline.  But, if she knew how much I desired to support her yet had all these unkowns with the pressures of new motherhood – I’d likely say yes.

    Also – I know my friends who are more laid back and other than are not… I’d use that as a gauge as well.

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