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Hi Ladies.... Well if you read any of my post you all know that DH's twin brother is getting married in 2 weeks.... we've been having some issues with them. BIL cussed my mother out at my wedding, acted a fool, and FSIL's MOH HORRIBLE cussed me out in concerns to shower/wedding gifts. (told me to go f* my self!) LoL

so... FSIL had 3 wedding showers... 3! And all of her family and friends live in a 1hr radius. So I attended the first one but not the other 2 due to work, and my daughter being ill. HOWEVER  Isent gifts to all 3 showers.  Here is what she received from me

Shower 1- Tiffany's Wineglasses

Shower 2- Home decor items that were like $130

Shower 3- Entire wedding party went together to get them a firepit & outdoor bar (DH and I were the ones TOLD by her MOH that we would chose the gifts, pay for them, pick them up, and deliever them and they would all give money back) so we decided do to this only to be nice!

Ok so we couldn't attend the 3rd shower but arranged to deliver the gifts to his parents to ensure they got to the 3rd shower. along with the wedding gift that was a NEW PATIO SET! However, her MOH believed that it was horrible that we couldn't come and delievered it instead; that we were trying to make her look bad because she told us to get them and since she was the MOH having them there made her look better even though she did NOTHING to help us do any of it. So she continued to text me one night to tell me I was a "b*tch that needed to go f*ck myself because she was MOH and I should answer to her"  Ya that dont happen or sit well with me. BUT even though FSIL was sitting there she said I shouldnt be mean to her MOH?! Oh well besides the point

ANYWHO... Today I get the Thank you for the showers (1 in June, 1 in July and 1 in Aug) I get the ONE thank you she sent out TODAY... here is word for word what its says

       " K. (Me)   

               Thank you for the gifts. We liked them. See you at the wedding!

                                                  <3 Hearts <3  E (FSIL)"

WHAT!!! Now I had 2 showers because I live 2 hrs away from my inlaws... I had people I had never seen before at my showers and sent more of a personal thank you than that!  I thanked them for coming, it was so nice to meet them, I love _______ that they got me etc...  and for my BM and close friends and family I swear I almost wrote a book thanking them and how much they mean to me and that it was so important to me they were sharing my day etc. and this is what I get as her FSIL!?!?!?!?!? These people are driving me nuts!

We have code named this wedding the Royal Wedding 2.0  because BIL & FSIL think they are some kind of King and Queen! I'm dreading being a BM at this wedding because DH is sick of their rude and "better than everyone" attitdue they have and I have a feeling might snap at the wedding. His family ruined our reception so I hope he is on his best behavior... Even though they are hurtful to me I dont want their wedding ruined!

So moral of story .... Ladies please do more than say Thanks see ya at the wedding in your thank yous!!!! LoL : )

@PinkMagnolia: That is EXACTLY what I did too!

@linguo42: Oh I know! She NEVER acted like this when I first met her... she has a LARGE trust fund and is now starting to act like some rich princess! ***I know not all with trust funds act like this*** 

I dont get why we had to spend SOO much on their presents too... 3 showers and a wedding gift not to mention out of town bachelor/bachelorette parties (Ididnt go dh did) They had a NICE house that DH & BIL remodeled TOP TO BOTTOM! COMPLETELY!!! that was 3 bedrooms on 2acres with a bar room etc... then out of the blue, noone knew anything about it they got a brand new 6bedroom  3500sq ft house for the 2 of them!? that was 2.5 times the amount of their old house! and got it 6wks before the wedding?! ODD?! I can't afford to get myself a new camera for under $500 but I can buy them like 6 wedding related gifts?! I konw its their wedding but I didnt HAVE to get something for EACH shower!

@stillme:Oh that night her MOH went off on me!!! I could have hit her! Too bad I was 2hrs away!  It was crazy... she txt me to say I heard you DH has to work and you can't come.. I said Yes but MIL & FIL are meeting us to get the gifts so they'll be there!  She said GREAT thanks got a little worried!

few hours later MOH is AT FSIL & BIL's house text me... "I dont appreciate you lieing to me saying the gifts were taken care of, and making me look like a fool. I will not be made look like that. I told you the gifts MUSTbe here and if I knew you were a stupid bitch I would have done it myself. "

I reply "MOH, they are taken care of like I said MIL & FIL are coming to get them. I didnt make you look like a fool and you will NOT speak to me this way. I dont allow anyone to speak to me that way. I dont have to answer to you at all. You asked us to get them and they have been paid for and delivered, if you dont like that you'll have to get over it"

Her response "Having FIL & MIL get them is NOT having them taken care of; I am the MOH so you will answer to me! Im in charge here! And ... go F*ck yourself you stupid b*tch"  

That was what I got! And when DH called her to tell her about it... his brother and FSIL got mad at us for not just dropping it! She said I can't control MOH but you need to control your husband! I replied that I can only control my husband as much as she could control her FI when he cussed my mother out at my wedding!  So I think theyre mad that I didnt just take her MOH cussing me out for NO REASON AT ALL!

@sassypants: The Princess does that! LoL

@atalante: oh you guys need to go back and read my post on how his family *Including the Royals* ruined my whole wedding reception! OVER BEER!!!! 

I will have a good time and I can't guarantee that DH wont loose it at some point that weekend!

What hurts me is right now my 3yr old daughter is SOOOO Upset that they didnt ask her to be their flowergirl.... She is going to be their neice! Ya she is DH's stepdaughter but she claims him as daddy! (She is special and has 2 she says! LoL) they are using her nephew thats 5 as a ring bearer; and then she wasn't going to have a FG but NOW is using an 8 yr old that is taller than me at 5'4'' that was her childhood babysitter's kid!? They bearly even speak & live in FLa! BIL & FSIL live in Indiana!!! I can't even begin to explain to my daughter why 2 of her fav people dont want her to be their flower girl!  They want her to hand out programs with my bestfriend who introduced DH & I.... SHES 3!!! Yea I was suppose to do programs but she moved me to BM when her sister went back to jail! LoL (drugs)

So update... My bestfriend who introduced me to DH, that also went in with me on the gifts just got her Thank you... hers read as follows:

   "J,

          Thanks for the glassware and other gifts. They look good in our house. See you at the wedding.

                     -E"

What?! I know FSIL is upset with my BFF because she didnt goto her Bachelorette party (Bff has a 3mo old son) - she couldnt just leave her son because BIL & FSIL had their parties the same night and wanted couples with kids to goto both?! Ugh she is starting to really get to me!

@andielovesj: I agree! I think for their wedding I'm gonna get her a card adn write "Thanks for having me in the wedding. I liked it. See you at Thanksgiving"  LoL UGH!

@seven12: well I understand that if you dont know someone then it may be a little hard and ackward however I'm going to be her SISTER IN LAW... SHE KNOWS ME! Ya I felt stupid writing Thank You's to people I have NEVER met in my life that were MIL's friends however I still wrote a hearfelt thank you for attending my shower and how nice it was to meet them and thanks for the gift. Thats more personal than Thanks, We like it see ya at the wedding?!  for her thank you's to her Sister in Law and her good friend of 5 years is that impersonal I think I have a right to feel a little .... something for it being so cold !

ETA: She has almost the same group of people at EACH shower! No lie... she just did one at MIL's house that had MAYBE 10 people that were MIL's friends that didnt goto the Shower at her aunt;s house and then the same people were invited to the shower at her moms house - It was said to be different because one was a formal shower, one was a come & go shower and one was a backyard cook out shower all with the same people give or take 10-15

@soyjoy222: I agree. Especially after the way that she and her MOH acted to me about the fact I couldn't PERSONALLY deliver the gifts for them! And I put all the pieces together about the gifts that he MOH approached everyone about getting an entire patio set adn accessories; then FSIL knows that we got them and MOH is at HER HOUSE while she is cussing me out that I cant deliver them while DH is at work with our truck that Im not going to deliver things I cant carry 2.5 hrs away.... and then they take up for MOH while she is saying AWEFUL things to me and say  that I should have just let it go?!  I think this is her being rude and immature after all of that because her MOH can say whatever and I'm just suppose to say oh its ok i'll ignore it!

THIS IS WHY PEOPLE GET AWAY WITH THINGS! I dont care how small or if you can't physically make something horrible someone does better... People HAVE to be accountable for their actions even if it is just someone voicing their feelings about it. If you ignore a problem or how people act they just think it is ok and continue to do it!

@abbyful: I know! And I got some really nice ones that were our wedding colors and all... which of course you DONT have to do however I tried to make them nice! Now she went to Dollar General *it said so on the back* and got some random blue/green/brown ones that look like they went for a boys baby shower!  Now I am VERY understanding of being on a budget and saving money if its needed but she has MILLIONS! and that is NO exaggeration at all!