Post # 1
I was recently married and I could not be happier 🙂 My wedding was not perfect as we had to make a couple of last minute changes due to rain, but it was great and the ONLY thing I would change if I had to go back and do it over would be to not invite a some guest.
Some of you may not be as nice (gullible) as me and you are strict about the people who you are inviting to your wedding (good for you!). Those of you, who are super nice, just be careful! I invited some co-workers to my wedding because they pretty much begged for an invite. I was also invited to one of their weddings so I that too motivated me to invite them. I knew how evil they were, I knew that they smiled in alot of faces and talked badly behind people’s backs…yet and still, because they begged, and smiled, and complimented me, I felt that it was the right thing to do…
WRONG!!! I was just told by one of the nice co-workers that still works in that department that they talked so badly about my wedding that it was sad. They made up lies about the decor, and said things like my husband and I didn’t look “in love”. My former co-worker stood up for me and disagreed with what they were saying and said great things in my defense, but she said they weren’t hearing it. I am neither sad nor hurt believe it or not; however I realize even more how evil and cold-hearted people can be. If you feel unsure about inviting a certain person to your wedding because they are mean, two-faced, etc. Then do your beautiful day a favor and don’t invite them.
Hope this post helped someone make a decision! Stay Happy & Blessed.
Post # 3
That is really sad. Do you still work with these people.
If you do work with them I think it would actually be a good thing to say something to them. If you do it nicely, and directly they will be more respectful. Often people talk trash because they don’t respect the other people.
I would say something along the lines “I have heard that you didnt enjoy yourselves at my wedding, but it was a special day to me and I really enjoyed it. I am sorry you did not, but can you please not talk about my wedding to coworkers? Thanks”
Post # 4
Thats ridiculous. Why would someone say those thing?! I mean really who does that?
Post # 5
@SkyBeauty37: I’m so sorry! They’re horrible!!
Post # 6
I’ve been going back and forth on inviting some of my co-workers. Although I don’t think they would be mean about my wedding or question FI and my love for each other, I have other reasons for not wanting to invite them. I’ll remember your post! Invites are going out this week!
Post # 7
Be careful–there are people (I don’t know if any of your coworkers are like this) who play a game called Let’s You and Him Fight. They’ll talk trash to you and say someone else said it to start drama.
Don’t let them. You don’t need that crap.
Post # 8
Aww that’s just sad. I would totally say something to them and tell them off!
Post # 9
Id have to be blunt with them and just speak directly to them,but keepit seemingly sweet and polite. something like “oh I heard you didnt enjoy our wedding,may I ask why? And why you feel it is appropriate to not come to me and speak to me about this?”
That should let them pull a few gobsmacked faces!!
Post # 10
Thanks for the advice guys. At the end of the day I’m here happy with my wonderful husband, and they’re just mean, ruthless, evil people. I’m not going to say anything because it would make it uncomfortable for my good friend who did’nt want to tell me in the first place because she didn’t want to my feelings hurt.
My wedding was beautiful, and I know that their own personal issues blocked them from seeing that.
Post # 11
I am so sorry that happened 🙁 That’s just rude after you were so nice to invite them!! I wish that your friend hadn’t said anything, it just hurts you for no reason you know? But on the other hand, at least now you know how they really are. Sheesh you would think we were dealing with a bunch of high schoolers here, not grown people in the workplace. Just don’t do them any favours. I know when it comes to work, it’s stupid to burn bridges with people because you never know when you might need them. Keep this in the back of your mind.
Post # 12
uhhh am i the only one who thinks the “nice” coworker is at fault too here? what good could possibly come of telling you this information? sounds like they just want to stir up drama.
Post # 13
@SkyBeauty37:Best wishes and congratulations on your beautiful day. And thank you for helping people be sure of their invite list.
Sounds like, even though those people suck, you still had a great time. 🙂 That’s because you rock.
Post # 14
AYE. It is for this very same reason that I am only inviting my boss and one other older lady from work.. none of the people my age.. they talk so much in general and I know for my wedding it would be no diffferent!
Post # 15
thank you for reaffirming my decision to not invite anyone from work.
Post # 16
@Mrs. Meowerson: You’re very welcome!