- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
I was thinking about this phrase lately, as it’s something that I hear very often when people express dissatisfaction with their jobs and/or mention wanting to find another one and it’s been heavy on my thoughts.
I don’t know if I’m the only one but hearing “you should just be thankful to have a job” bothers me.
First, it’s depressing; it brings to light that the job market is so bad that we have become desperate enough to take any old job, no matter how horrible, and are expected to be happy about it.
Second, I feel as though it insinuates that we no longer have the right to admit being unhappy in a job – that doing so would mean we are spoiled, selfish, and entitled because there are so many more less fortunate than us that “would be delighted to have our jobs” That being unhappy in a career or job that does not suit our personalities or skills simply means we have poor attitudes and a bad work ethic.
Third because it seems to simplify a complex issue (wanting to leave a job) into an elementary problem, when there are many emotional, mental, and physical reasons that may come into play. I feel that often feeling gratitude would not be enough to solve problems in a job that causes a person to deteriorate in some way.
Fourth, I feel like that phrase encourages people to stay in bad situations for fear of the unknown, instead of taking risks to finding something more fulfilling.
But then even with all these reasons, it holds a much weighted truth to it. Jobs *are* hard to come by, and being employed is definitely better for survival than not having one. And once you let go of a job, anymore there’s no guarantee of how long you’ll be unemployed.
I guess my biggest thing is that we should be grateful to have jobs; however that’s not the same as, and doesn’t mean that, we have to be happy about the jobs we hold, and it doesn’t mean we don’t have the right to go out and seek other options. Maybe my biggest issue isn’t with the phrase itself, but with how loosely it gets thrown around without actually understanding people’s life situations.