Post # 1
Okay…I am really nervous bout my reception… I was known as the wild girl in my friends and now that i’ve meet my religious FI we want to have a true Christian wedding…. a.k.a no wordly music (hip hop, r and b, soca, dancehall) more of a instrumental reception. I know people like to get up and boogie…but would you attend if this was happening to a friend of your wedding?
Any other brides without a bash reception.lol?
Post # 3
If your friends love you, they will attend regardless of your entertainment choices because they are just happy to see you get married. I’m sure it will be lovely.
Post # 4
Also, I’ve flagged this as I think you’ve put it in the wrong category by mistake. Sorry if you meant for it to appear in Rings!!
Post # 5
@Mz Izzie: If I thought you had become someone totally different overnight. No I wouldn’t.
Post # 6
Just like VickyAurea stated, your true friends will be happy for you regardless of the entertainment choices.
We had an Open House Reception in our home. We did play “worldly” music in the background and we were a little concerned abouut or church friends mixing with our non church friends. Of course we did not have a dance floor in our home and I think it is very important to state that we did not serve alcohol. Everyone mingled nicely.
Post # 7
I’d go and support you as a friend, but would probably be wondering if your true self has been overshadowed by your husband’s beliefs.
Are your friends going to be totally blindsided by this?
Post # 8
There are “worldly” songs that don’t have to do with sex or inappropriate things. Or you could hire a swing band or jazz band to play instrumental songs and have that be the music “theme.” Sorry I think it would be odd to try to dance to christian music.
Post # 9
I think the music needs to reflect both of your musical tastes. Granted I love instrumental music too so while I wouldn’t mind just relaxing with that I would be a bit disappointed if the pace didn’t pick up. Maybe you can suggest that you can play his type of music till a certain time then later on you can playing your soca/dancehall stuff for night time guests (assuming your reception will go later).
p.s. its great to see another trini bee on here!
Post # 10
Is the problem with the type of music you used to listen to or with ALL music that has lyrics?
Thinking about it, I can’t pick out a song I’ve heard at a wedding that had swears or references to drugs/alcohol. Heck, I can’t even think of a song on my ipod that had swears and I don’t listen to Christian music.
I bet you have plenty of options. 🙂
Post # 11
If it was my friend, of course I would still attend, but i would be concerned about the reception only reflecting your FI taste. Do you now share your FI beliefs and do not want the music you used to listen to?
Post # 12
I think it will be fine.
A long time ago, I was invited to a wedding with a dry, vegan reception. These are not life choices I make for myself. Still, I went because I wanted to see my friend get married!
I had a blast at their reception and the food was amazing – I still can’t believe how good it was.
Post # 13
My wedding is going to be in the morning, and is a really small wedding. I’m pretty sure no one besides my two nephews are going to get up and dance lol. Byt the way, we are having a jazz band play in the background, so I hope it’s fun. If not, oh well, I got married so that’s the most important thing.
Post # 14
I would also have no problem as long as I felt that this was what you really wanted. If I felt that it only reflected your FI’s beliefs I would probably feel uncomfortable. I would hope that the reception reflects YOU as well.
Post # 15
Ladies thank you sooooo much. For ur support and encouragement. This was a huge concern for me and with all the responses thank you soooooooooooooo much.
Post # 16
I saw it and wasn’t sure how to change it….. does that me i can get in truble 🙁 Hope not meant no harm or dishonesty.