Be my bridesmaid?… actually, nevermind.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

Please excuse the language but you have been asked to be a bridal bitch and there is no honor in this at all.  You need to step down.

Post # 4
11626 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not have accepted being the wedding coordinator.  Instead of being given the honorific role of being a bridesmaid, she’s using you as a free vendor.  I would have been offended and insulted.  I would probably tell your friend that you’re unable to commit to doing all of the coordiantion duties for her wedding, and bow our gracefully.

Post # 5
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Anna10-05-2014:  I am sorry that your feelings are hurt. Mine would be too. It is not okay to give someone title of bridesmaid and then say nevermind like you were an afterthought. I would make myself a little less available because it sounds like they are taking advantage of you. You seem to be a great friend and it doesn’t appear she deserves to have you around!

Post # 7
151 posts
Blushing bee

@Anna10-05-2014:  you should say no no no. A wedding planner is a full time job! Its a career! Its so out of line to not only unbridesmaid someone but then have the audacity to “honor” you by saying you can plan the wedding? Ugh. Abort mission asap. Unaccept like she uninvited you. Life is too short! Run run run!


Post # 8
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Pfft, I wouldnt even “bow out gracefully” I’d just stop talking to her. What a bitch friend.

Post # 10
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley



+1 to these!  Her behavior is offensive and if you don’t back down now, expect to be treated like a turd the rest of the process.

Post # 11
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You are being used.  I don’t know why she is treating you like this; a true friend doesn’t behave in this manner.

Post # 12
7230 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What a bitch. I agree with the PP jump ship now. 

Post # 13
5259 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh hell no!!! I had a friend that asked me to be a bridesmaid then took it back..lets just say we are not friends anymore!! It looks like she just wants you to do all her planning for her for free!!

Post # 14
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Wow, I think you’re handling this pretty gracefully, to be honest.  I think I’d be livid if I was in your situation.  I agree with the rest of the posters here–you should step down. 

Post # 16
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Anna10-05-2014:  Eh no. No credit for fiancial contribution and work you do? Hell no.

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