- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Aaand maybe that is stuck in your head now 😛 Sorry!
FI and I are sending the last batch of STD’s out tomorrow, so we were doing another rehash of the guest list! It has definitely been one of the hardest parts of wedding planning. Our venue can literally not accept more than 200 guests, and therefore I never wanted to actually invite anymore than 200. In fact, I’m hoping (for budget reasons) to have about 150. (that whole, 25% rsvp no thing)
We started our guest list by putting on ALMOST every single possible person we could think of (made some “easy” cutoffs to start), and it came up to 221 people. Ouch. So then it molded into a list that had some “B’s”. I never wanted to have a B list because I really wanted to avoid it, but at the time there didn’t seem to be a way around it. Then the B list kind of ended up melting away, but we had about 206/207 people on the list…This made me nervous!
The cuts that we have made are:
-no children (we are inviting teenagers and one infant who will be 1 month old at the time, too wee to be separated from mama)
-no plus ones unless you are engaged, living together, married (duh) or were dating 6 months before the invites went out. (And as long as they will know other people too! For instance, there is one exception because in a group they would be the only single one so I’m giving her the option), and exceptions for bridal party.
-not inviting the children (teens and adults) of our parent’s cousins (we like them, it’s just this is getting to extended extended family. And some on my side are obnoxious, sooo)
-people we only see or talk to occassionally or they themselves had smaller weddings we might not have been invited to (because they understand!!!!!)
So here we are about 6 months out, and finally, our guest list is down to 197! Whoot whoot!!!
I keep trying to guess at which guests will probably not be coming and which ones probably will to keep estimating our final count. This is not exactly working haha. There have been people I thought won’t come (oh they are across the country….) and surprise! They are already possibly planning a trip around that time anyway and can probably come!
I wanna hear about your guest list journeys! I also added a poll for fun, um, I mean for research and educational purposes. I tried to include the aspects that I thought were seen most commonly on the boards.