Post # 1
I’m posting here trying to calm my anxiety.
I bought my dress a few months ago (in ivory) for my September wedding, and now my venue as changed from a garden/outdoor ceremony in a cooler climate with a formal reception to a late afternoon beach wedding and a casual restaurant reception (what I originally wanted but didn’t think I would get):
I bought this dress already knowing I would be walking outside, but in a more garden-y/somewhat rustic elegance environment. Now I’m having remorse because of the weight and grandiosity of it.
I fell in love with it when I first got it, so much so that I immediately stopped and said “Nope, I’m done. This is it.” While I still love it, I just don’t know if it will be too difficult to wear for what it’s worth.
I’m not super obsessed about my dress “matching” my venue, but I want to feel confident that this will work and still be beautiful and “magical” like I had planned originally, and that the work that will go into wearing it will be doable.
I know DB won’t let me return it and while I haven’t asked, I doubt they will let me exchange it as it was their last one left in the store.
I have my alterations fitting appointment soon, and I’m going to see if shortening the train without ruining the integrity would be an option.
Tell me what you ladies think, please?
Post # 3
It does seem quite formal for a casual beach style wedding, but there are no laws or rules on what the bride can or cannot wear!
Post # 4
It’s a lovely dress and quite honestly, you can wear what you want so if this is your dream dress, go for it! What I would say is that you might find it hot and heavy so perhaps consider a more casual, lighter weight reception dress too?
Post # 5
Ha! Steampunkbride, I was also thinking the same thing, but I tried it on a few days ago and said again how much I love it. Our ceremony is short though, and thinking of wearing it for only an hour and a half at most (for pictures) made me sad..
It’s silly, but other people’s affirmations really do help in this situation, so thank you both. 🙂
Post # 6
Firstly, lovely dress. I wouldn’t lose the train. Have you thought about changing into a reception dress? Honestly, I think you could bustle it for the reception. and it would still be appropriate. Maybe just go low key with accessories? “refined elegance” is the first thing that came to mind when I saw your dress. Its not the first kind of dress I picture when I think beach wedding, but I don’t think it would be over the top for the beach either. I’ve seen wedding pics of brides in satin ball gowns on the beach, and they were beautiful!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t destroy that beautiful train. What I would do is have some formal pics taken with the dress unbustled, but I would bustle it for the ceremony and the reception.
Post # 8
@Bridey77: I have think I will have a small reception dress (I bought it discounted already) to wear just in case, but I think I will want to wear this dress for as long as possible as it was just so much money, and there won’t be another time.I definitely planned to go low-key with jewelry. Would a pearl necklace work or is that even too much? I was also looking at simple chains with minimalistic drop charms, but I really don’t know what’s “appropriate.”
I’m normally not a super girly or flashy woman (at all), but when I put this on, I loved that I felt like a princess in this dress.
Thank you for your reassurance. 🙂
Post # 9
@Brielle: I didn’t even think of bustling it for the ceremony, thanks!
Post # 10
@redstriped: If it’s your “dream dress”, don’t you dare change it just to fit in with some ridiculous concept of formality 🙂 We are getting married at the beach, too, and I’m still wearing my drag-on-the-floor mermaid gown 🙂
Post # 11
oh my gosh, I love it! I think it’s perfect for a beach wedding – just go barefoot. It’s definitely super glam but I think it will look really cool outdoors:)
Post # 12
@redstriped: That dress is SO BEAUTIFUL! It’s going to look amazing at your beach wedding!
Post # 13
Thank you all so much, I really appreciate your support! I’ve calmed down, and won’t go to DB freaking out like I originally thought I would. I’ll try to post pics after the event to reassure any brides who might be in my situation. 🙂
Post # 14
First of all, I think the dress is gorgeous and it suits you beautifully! If you’re worried about it being too heavy for the beach, maybe you can do the “reception dress” thing in reverse – buy a more simple dress for the ceremony, then rock this to the restaurant? I definitely don’t think you should let this one go!
Post # 15
Can you tell me how your day went? I’m having the same dilemma