Beard or No Beard?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ShabbyChicBee:  SHAVE! A wedding is a formal occasion, he should look sharp and his best. You will have a lot of nice photos to capture this day and those photos will be passed down to future generations… I’d draw the line with the beard!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

If I were you, I would full-on beg him to shave and try to make it clear how very important it is to you.  Offer up any kind of compromise you can think of… something HE wants but you don’t.  If he still won’t budge, unfortunately it’s his face, his call.  Not worth drawing a line in the sand over this.

ETA:  I agree with other PPs – compromise with a nice clean trim?

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would compromise and say long as the beard is trimmed, I wouldn’t have a problem, but duck dynasty style..I don’t know about that. But then again… if that’s his style year around not sure why he should change. Bee’s would up in arms if the situation was reversed.  

Post # 6
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201 posts
Helper bee

@ShabbyChicBee:  Why not ask him to trim it and keep it in check? That seems like a reasonable compromise. He still gets the beard, and you still get him looking sharp!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Does he always have a beard or is it something he grows occaisionally for fun? If he always has a beard and wants it for the wedding just make sure it is neat and groomed. If he only occaisionally has the beard he should shave it, if he wants to. As long as everything is neat and tidy it is his face and his choice.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I personally love a full, but short beard (i.e. no longer than 1/2″), is there anyway you could come to some sort of a compromise?

EDIT: What’s duck dynasty?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@bklynbridetobe:  +1, we’d all be pissed if our groom demanded we cut/color/grow out our hair to their preferences.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d say trim it? My DH always rocks a bears (which I love), but he wanted to shave it for our wedding so that years in the future he can looks at the pics and be all “holy shit- baby face! I look so young!”

Post # 11
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301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I vote for having one final heart-to-heart discussion about it and then dropping it.  If it’s very important to him to have a beard on his wedding day, then I think that his feelings should be respected.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

Hmm… I wouldn’t mind if my FH had a beard for our wedding, he looks sexy with one, BUT he always always keeps it immaculately groomed and trimmed short, fairly close to his face.  If it was long and scruffy a la Duck Dynasty, I would not be down for that.

Could you reach a compromise and say he can keep the beard if he grooms it?

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@littlemisst08:  @bklynbridetobe:  I’m not sure it’s an equal comparison.  My guy doesn’t give a rat’s ass what my hair looks like, but he knows I prefer his beard more sexy-stubble-trimmed than crazy-mountain-man.  He doesn’t care – he’d rather have someone else manage his hair / beard / clothes than deal with it himself.  I think that’s relatively standard…

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would let him rock a beard. If a guy posted on this site about how he really wishes his FI would go blonde for the wedding everyone would tell him how inconsiderate he was.

Post # 16
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802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

My boyfriend has a beard and we always talk about whether he’d shave it or not. It’s going to be a major conversation topic… because half of his friend/family HATE it. I love it and he loves it… my only thing is that I need it to be trimmed. 

If it’s just a short phase of beard… maybe he should shave, but if it’s become part of him then he should keep it. 

I know that if I hated the beard I’d have a hard time with it too… but I love it. Maybe he’ll surprise you and shave it right before the wedding!

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