Post # 1
Ok ladies, here’s the deal and please don’t think I’m a nut for stressing so early.
I am not engaged and probably won’t be for the next year or so, but everyday I dream of my wedding (I’m definitely one of those girls). There is an absolutely gorgeous outdoor chapel in the mountains near where I’m from that I daydream of getting married at. The only problem is that this chapel is in the middle of nowhere and a reception would require about an hours drive back into civilization. I also don’t know what I want for my big day in terms of size and scope. Half of me wants all our friends and family there to share in the joy, but the other half wants to avoid all the stress and take the money we would spend and use it on a great honeymoon and nest egg.
So my question to you is: Would you chose this gorgeous ceremony site and have an extremely intimate wedding with only immediate family allowing you to splurge on other things such as a videographer and great photog to share with others later. Or go with the 100-150 guest (also good venue) but somewhat budgeted celebration with everyone else we would want there?
Here is a photo of the outdoor chapel to help in your voting
Post # 3
Feel free to leave comments or suggestions.
Post # 4
What if you had an intimate ceremony and a party down reception? You could have the venue you love, and the friends you love as well.
Post # 5
I would go with the smaller intimate affair at the place you’ve been dreaming about! We made this choice, so I am a little biased 😛
Post # 6
i think you should probably wait until being engaged to make this decision, because you never know- parents might offer to contribute money which would change your budget issues
Post # 7
it is a rather stunning location though, i must admit
Post # 8
The view from that chapel is just ridiculously amazing.
As someone who had a larger wedding (175 people) I now look back and realize I would’ve totally been okay with fewer guests.
Even though we’ve only been married a little over a year, we’re not as close with the people we invited to the wedding as we were at the time we got married.
We’ve graduated from school, moved, and are busy working all the time.
What I’m trying to say, is that I don’t think that you’ll regret having an intimate ceremony with just immediate family and a few close friends.
All that matters is that you get married to the man you love! Having more people there doesn’t make it any less official or special 🙂
Post # 9
I would probably do and intimate affair with an awesome photog etc… but then throw a casual backyard BBQ style reception for all the friends who couldn’t make it. Show the slideshow of the wedding, do an iPod DJ, etc..
I’ve seen numerous couples do it, and they all seemed to love every min. of it!
ETA: the BBQ would be about 1-6 weeks later…
Post # 10
What a beautiful site. I looked at many that were similar to that one, as I was very enchanted with the idea of exchanging vows on a mountaintop overlooking a gorgeous vista like that. First, it looks to me like there is seating in that chapel for perhaps as many as fifty people, so you might be able to include more than just intimate family. But as Ms. Meowerson said, there is a lot that may emerge after you’re officially engaged that it’s impossible to predict right now. You could find a different but completely wonderful dream location that is closer to civilization and could accommodate more guests – which is actually what happened to us. Be patient and keep looking, and see what fate throws your way. 🙂
Post # 11
Um, that chapel. wow.
We are going with the smaller higher “quality” wedding (not to say large weddings skimp on quality!!). Not what I would have envisioned prior to getting engaged but it’s what ended up being the best for us. 25-30 people in Cabo. Just our immediate families + closest friends. My parents are throwing us a very causal reception when we return with all of our aunts, uncles, neighbors, etc that we’re NOT inviting to the wedding.
Post # 12
That is probably the most beautiful site I have ever seen. I didn’t vote for either option because if I were in your situation I would have my wedding with close family and friends at that site and then invite everyone else for a later reception/celebration in the city or town that is an hour away. You still have lots of time to decide it depends on what theme you want and how your budget looks closer to the date.
Post # 13
This is why I love Weddingbee so much. I don’t feel like a totall nut job for asking you girls this silly question (silly because I’m not engaged). Thank you all for the comments.
Post # 14
I’d like to hear from a few more women who had a large wedding and their thoughts looking back at the decision.
Post # 15
That’s the Pretty Place Chapel? I love it and it’s gorgeous but I’m not positive about the price. I mean, it wasn’t in our budget but it is absolutely gorgeous. I personally am having a wedding with 30 people or less just because it’s more our personality to want to see everyone and have less pressure/stress that comes with 100 people staring at you. I do love that chapel but I guess it depends on who you want to see you get married.
Post # 16
I had a larger wedding (about 150 people) and I wouldn’t change it for the world! I would look back and severely regret not including aunts, uncles, cousins and friends if I had done a more intimate affair. It hard to explein why but honestly, my day wouldn’t have been complete to me without those people there.
Personally, I also think it is the content of the ceremony that makes it beautiful much more so than the location itself (not that a gorgeous location hurts – lol).