Post # 1
So a friend of mine just told me she has signed her daughter up for a pageant next year.
Her daughter is 3 and very much a shy little girl. She hopes it will help her come out of her shell.
Shes hired a Paegent coach and said she will be using fake tan and hairpieces on her daughter.
I dont know if its just me or what but fake tan on a 3 year old? We live in the UK, Nobody is tanned!
Just sounds crazy to me. I was entered into beauty contests when i was about that age but there definately wasnt all this fake hair and fake tan business let alone heavy make up.
Where do you stand on young girls doing pageants?
Are you a pageant mum? would you be?
Her daughter is very pretty but why cant little girls just be little girls
Post # 3
@ChocolateLime: I did a pageant as a teen- got money for college! But at this pageant, there was no bathing suit contest, but rather an interview. Also, the younger girls (under 11 or 12) weren’t allowed to wear makeup. I would put my daughter in a pageant like that. I think that’s how it should be for younger girls and would NOT spray tan, hair pieces, or heavy makeup- basically no glitz pageants. I think spray tanning toddlers is absurd, personally.
Post # 4
No way would I ever sign my 3 yo daughter up for something like that. There is a show I’ve watched a couple of times about crazy pageant moms and daughters – they have girls all dolled up in makeup, fake hair, fake tans and even fake teeth! I think is is absolutley nuts – what is that teaching these girls? That they are not naturally attractive and need all these fake enahancements to look pretty?
Post # 5
@ChocolateLime: I can see the pros and cons of pageants. I love the notion of pageants and getting all glammed up but the cost and prep is tremendous. The only way I think I could really support a pageant lifestyle would be if my girl really, REALLY wanted it. I wouldn’t force that on anyone and since we wouldn’t enter to flop and lose, as soon as we decided to go in, we’d be working hard to make sure we did our absolute best.
So yes, if she wanted to do it, I’d support her and spray tan her and dance in the back of the audience during her routine. 🙂
Post # 6
I begged my mom to let me compete in pageants, but I wasn’t allowed to until I was 10. Every pageant I ever did was a scholarship pageant…. (Those usually include Interview, Talent, Scholastic achievement, etc) The little kid pageants are frowned upon from the larger organizations (Miss America Organization for example) Some kids REALLY love it… love playing dress up and going on stage. But when it comes to fake teeth and too mature clothing I draw the line.
However… at an older age… teen and adult .. these types of pageants can be fabulous. I paid for my entire college education competing in the Miss America System. Perfected my interview skills and gained self confidence in all aspects of my life.
Post # 7
@HeartsandSparkles: See, that sounds fine. Much less extreme and not focused on all the fakeness.
I would never let my daughter enter a pageant that involved tans, mature clothing, make up, etc. One that was not focused on little girls dressing like adults? Sure, I would if she wanted to.
Post # 8
I have 2 daughters. I would not let them participate in such a thing.
Post # 9
I would put my kid in dance lessons instead of pageants. Its physical (and good exercise) it involves being on stage but it doesn’t focus simply on looks.
Post # 10
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Nope. I don’t want my 3 year old to get fixated on the idea that her looks are her most important aspect. Fake tanning and making up a 3 year old is just wrong.
Post # 11
When a child is old enough to make an informed desicion its not tooooo bad but its the mums! they drag their kids along and half the time they arent even enjoying it, They are shoved (especially at glitz) in these god awful pouffy dresses with makeup plastered onto their faces, false lashes, tan the lot.
I really hope my friend sees some sense and doesnt push it on her little girl. Take her to dance lessons or something. They do shows and teaches them lots about posture and to take orders etc.
It can be so expensive too. They can hardly afford their rent
Post # 12
My daughters are four and five and in quite a few dance lessons (ballet, tap, jazz, competition dance, etc). There are a few girls in their dance school who do the pageant circuit and my girls have asked to participate because at that age, all they see are these over the top glitzy dresses to wear. That’s what they care about. I can’t do it though. I think those little girls look scary they’re so fake.
That’s sad what you said about them barely being able to afford rent. That is an extremely pricy past time for someone who is squeaking by. If she wants her to come out of her shell, I’d highly suggest a class for her daughter. My youngest has really benefitted socially from dance class, though I’m sure any kind of extra curricular could provide the same benefit.