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Funny messy question here. I've just discovered the gift we bought for a wedding SEVEN YEARS AGO never got to the Bride & Groom. Whaaaaat, you say? How'd that happen?
Fairly simple, really. We bought some glassware, and FI's parents, also attending the wedding, said they'd drop the gift over to the Bride's parents' house the day after the wedding, along with their own gift, to help minimise the 'Haul-home-a-sack-of-gifts-after-reception' problem for the couple. Grand.
Fast forward to this week. FI's mom cleaned out the cupboard under the stairs. What came out? Still in it's wrapping? Yep. Our gift.
Now what do I do? I should clarify, that this couple are friends of ours. FI was v close to the Groom in school, and we do meet them, along with some other friends, every 4-6 weeks for a few drinks. They've obviously never mentioned the lack of a gift, they're too well mannered for that.
Should I just say nothing, it's ancient history? Should I drop over the gift, and come clean? It is rather dated, though. Should I buy them something new and pretend it's what we got them originally?
They will be coming to our wedding, and I think I'd only die if they got us something nice, after receiving nothing from us. Scarlet!! They've good taste and were well brought up, so they prob will get us something nice.
What do ye think?
I would bring it up casually when it's just you and them and tell them the story of how it was discovered. After seven years it's funny and they are obviously good enough friends to have even thought twice about it.
I'd be honest - explain the mix up. If it were me I'd laugh it off and be happy for a late gift!
I would also - explain that if they've since the wedding purchased that item you'll exchange it for something else. (Hope you can exchange it but even if the store doesn't, buy them something new if needed).
I definately think you should give it to them along with the story. Since they are friends of yours, I am sure they will laugh about it, in a good way :-)
I would also leave it in the same wrapping.
Sounds like they are still good friends of yours, bring it over one night and explain the whole situation. More likely than not, it'll be one more great funny story that is part of your friendship.
I'd come clean and either give them the original gift or buy them a new one. Honestly, if I was your friend and you told me that story about my wedding gift, I'd find it very amusing!
I'd lean more towards the original gift in the original wrapping! Take it over one night with a bottle of wine and laugh about good times!
I voted come clean with the original gift. They might think it's funny after all these years and it would make me feel better if I were in your position.
I'd be honest and tell them about it. If it was our missing gift, I'd probably get a good chuckle out of it. I'd also give it to them in the dusy oriinal wrapping paper!
Definitely tell them! I think it's a hilarious story!
What was the gift? I'd give them the original gift, unless by "dated" you mean that it's a big VCR or something. If you do buy them something new, I wouldn't pretend that that was what you'd originally intended to give them, because something about the gift may tip them off that it was bought recently, and then...well, there's no reason to cover anything up. You can just say that you realized the gift never got to them, but by now the gift doesn't make sense, so you got them something else.
EDIT: I didn't vote because I didn't see an option I liked. I think you should give them the gift in its original wrapping--that will just add to the humor and charm of it all!
It's wedding glassware though, at the time I actually didn't realise how cheesy it was! Should I get something nice instead?
I would just explain, and give them the original gift/card... then buy them a round of drinks! I'm sure it will just be a funny thing, and something you can all laugh about!
I agree with @clane616. And since it's still wrapped...it would be kind of funny.
I would just tell them what happened, it'll make for a funny story.
We got a gift pretty late after our wedding (not years though!) and I didn't even realize that the girl hadn't given us a gift. I never went through to figure out if everyone gave us a gift, I just wrote a thank you as I recieved the present. So they might not have even noticed!
give the original gift to them in person and tell them the whole story. i'm sure they'll laugh, it's a good story.
@aunt pol: if you're concerned about it not being nice enough, then i'd suggest giving them the orignal gift plus a little something extra....maybe a nice bottle of wine/alcohol to go with the glasses?
Um... that is HILARIOUS. Tell them the story and give them the gift! I'd leave it in the same wrapping too... I would think it was so funny if that happened to us :)
Since it's still in it's original wrapping, I think it will be pretty funny to show them! Give it to them and then offer to take them out for dinner or something to make up for it. It's a funny story!
haha, wow, that is too funny, they'd probably think so too! I'd bring it over in its original wrapping and everything, dust and all, and tell the story! If you think it's a little dated now, I'd throw in a little gift card to get something more current. You'll have to update this and let us know what you did!
I think it's such a funny story and they will get a big kick out of it! I think like a lot of others have said, you should give them the original gift just because it's so funny :) In order to make yourself feel better about it, I would consider buying them something else (as long as money isn't a big issue) that they would love now to "make up for it" (I put that in quotes because I don't think you have anything to make up for but I know how you're probably feeling!)
pfft, c'mon you've totally gotta give them the original gift in the same ol' wrapping and tell them the story. you'll all laugh and then you can either offer to get them a better gift, bring a new one, or buy them the nice dinner that you took them to to present your dated present. no need to get sketchy on them though.
I agree that you should leave the gift as is. Give them the original gift along with a bottle of wine and put them to good use while telling the story!
@pbandj: Yeah that's probably how it's gonna go! They are actually big wine drinkers, so a nice bottle could be good.
Will def let you all know how it goes!
This is hilarious, I love it! And I agree with the other bees who say just give it to them in the original wrapping and maybe bring a bottle of wine extra. This is going to be a story that is passed down in both families, lol. Good times....
Tell them the story and give them the gift as is, I think it;lll be more fun that way! Maybe add a bottle of wine to go with it, theyll get a kick out of it, I know I would!
I'm with the hive. I would give it to them as is, I think this is a hilarious story!
I agree with pbandj and vitsippa-take the original gift along with a bottle of wine. It will be a hilarious story and I'm sure they will appreciate the wine!
If I were the bride in question, I would think this was totally hilarious. Especially the fact that it's still in its original wrapping and everything. I do agree that it might be nice to also give them a nice bottle of wine or something to go with it--like accrued interest or something 
That's too funny! Yep, I agree that you should give them the original gift. Perhaps take them out for a bite to eat and give them the gift?
You should update this thread and let us know what the bride/groom say! :)
I'd give them the original gift in the original packaging. Then I would buy something to add to it. You are friends, and I think they will get a kick out of the original gift and an additional one too. Great conversation maker!
I will indeed, I'll prob bite the bullet in the next week or two and go over there! They only live about two miles away, so I've no excuse lol !!!
And please update us on their reaction... If I was the bride and groom I would think this is HILARIOUS!!!!
If youre close enough friends... have a laugh about it! give them the old gift randomly... when they are utterly confused... profusely apologize for the lateness of the gift and give them a supplemental congratulation/Were sorry card with another small gift
I'd totally tell them about it and go ahead and give them the original gift or a new one. Even if their feelings were a little hurt at the time, they can certainly laugh over it now.
Luckily, it sounds like they're good people who didn't hold it against you!
Be honest and explain what happened, and give them the old gift. They'll probably think it's funny, and appreciate knowing that you thought of them.
I think you should give them their original gift (with card attached and everything...don't change a thing). Explain the situation, and then give them a new card with a gift certificate for their favourite restuarant, or a bottle of their favourite wine (as an updated gift). I would personally find it hilarious, and would probably get a kick out of it. It sounds like you are great friends still, so at least it didn't ruin any friendship. I truly think they will find it amusing! Keep us posted :)
yeppers give it to them in its original package with maybe a bottle of wine, and the story. if nothing else they will laugh like i just did. its a cute story :)
I would give them the original gift and tell them the story but I wouldn't re-wrap it. Part of the charm of the story is that it was found still wrapped from 7 years ago.
I agree with everyone else. Bring it over as-is followed up with a complementary gift, such as wine, dinner, etc. If it were me, I would think it was hilarious!
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