- 4 years ago
I kind of want to rant… it’s not really a rant, but more of me being frustrated at some girls. I have this “friend”… she isn’t really a friend, she’s an aquaintance from high school that I, in a friendly fashion, accepted a facebook friend request from.
This girl has never really ever had a boyfriend or real relationship. She was always a little awkward and disinterested in guys in HS, and it seemed like she had never really had a boyfriend or interest even outside of HS. Well, probably a year ago she starts dating a guy MUCH younger than her, who is also an “aquaintance” from high school. This guy had been in relationships with girls his age, but not so much older women. So these two start dating and within a week he’s the “love of her life”, then 3 months later they get married, then maybe 6 months later she’s announcing she’s pregnant.
So, now, their baby is less than a year old, and her facebook status updates are these complaints about how romance has gone out the window, her husband never helps with anything, he goes to bed early and she’s left awake alone, they have no adult time, she’s frustrated that he doesn’t go help her with her volunteer stuff, how they don’t agree on things, how she thought it was going to be THIS way but its not, etc etc etc. Her tone is such a pity party, and all of these people just feed into it “tell him how you feel”, blah blah…. and then there’s me. I say nothing. Why? Because I don’t feel like Facebook is the place for this junk, and also because relationships just get like this. Shouldn’t this have been worked out BEFORE you got married?
My FI and I have known eachother for a really long time, we’ve been friends for YEARS, we went our own ways for almost all of those years, dating other people, growing up, experiencing things, we got together during the time in our lives when we were working full-time, over the BS, and had that inkling feeling of being ready to someday soon settle down. Our relationship has NEVER been perfect, and I’ve NEVER expected it to! When we first started dating we were just open and honest, we discussed things normally, we had great dates, great times, we did long distance, we moved in together, we made sure we were on the same page as to how our kids would be raised, how we wanted to handle finances, what our expectations for life were, all these things that we felt we needed to work out before we got married.
So, now, we bought our first house, we’re getting married in less than 60 days, and YEAH it’s boring! We come home from work, we do things, we visit friends, we’re busy, we have small talk because we’re tired from working… and it’s fine! Is it just me to think its crazy to move so quick without realizing that one day that whirlwind is going to stop and you’re going to just live a normal life with that person? Isn’t that ok? I’m so annoyed by this, because I feel like this is what relationships are…
On a sidenote: WHY DO PEOPLE POST RELATIONSHIP ISSUES ON FACEBOOK!? It’s not a friggin’ journal, folks! The 200 selfies, the relationship drama, the baby drama, all of these things are private….AMIRITE!?!