- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I am having a very frustrating time trying to plan my wedding. We had only 3 months to plan because my fiance is moving out of the state and wants to take me with him just after our wedding date. He and my Future Mother-In-Law are being impossible.
First she insisted that she was going to make matching outfits for all of her daughters and all of my sisters. She picked the fabric and made the plan without asking me. My sisters are my bridesmaids and will be wearing my bridesmaid dresses. She was miffed and then kept trying to push me to order bouquets for all of her daughters as well. They’re nice girls and I love them, but I also just met them and I don’t think they should be my bridesmaids. She has still insisted that she is making matching outfits for all of her girls that will be different than the matching bridesmaid dresses and will probably look bad in the pictures, but I gave her that one… until I discovered she intended to have each of her “outfits” with white tops. I had to insist that no white was to be worn and even now I’m not sure that they won’t show up in matching white shirts.
Also, I have been asking for a number of wedding announcements that they needed me to print for them for over 2 months now. It wasn’t until I went to print the announcements and was at the location and finally called my fiance and sternly informed him that if I didn’t get a number right then, they wouldn’t be able to invite anyone that he called her and then called me back two minutes later with the number. They had a wedding just a year before I began asking for their counts/lists, so I know they had them. It took literally two minutes for her to get them for me, so what was the hold up the first 50 times I asked for them?
Now it’s the actual count of people that will be attending the reception that I’m waiting on. I have all but gotten down on my knees and begged with tears in my eyes, and I feel just about ready to do that. I have asked at least 15 times. The wedding is now in 2.5 weeks and I HAVE to order the food NOW. I’m paying for everything myself and putting the whole thing on so I refuse to A. estimate and not have enough food or B. estimate and order too much (it isn’t cheap).
My fiance has not helped with anything throughout this entire process, which I guess could be more normal than not, but he also won’t pressure her to do the things I need. I didn’t even want a big wedding. I wanted to have a small close family dinner or to elope. It was my fiance and his mother that insisted we needed a big reception. I decided against Tux rentals, didn’t ask her to pay for my bouquet, or for anything that she traditionally should be taking care of, so the numbers are the ONLY thing I have asked her for. At this point I can’t figure out if she is doing this on purpose or if she really is just that careless and thoughtless. If either is the case, what should I do??? My blood pressure is high for the first time in my life and I’m starting to feel like I want to run away and forget the whole thing.