- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I am a regular bee, who is too embarassed with my situation to post from my own username, therefore, I have gone undercover.
My FI and I have been engaged for a year, not that a year is a tremendous amount of time, but it is when nothing has been planned.
I have an engament ring..and thats all folks. We have never discussed a date, nothing outside of the fact that it will be a simple ceromony family only as we have both been previously married.
You see we are in are mid-late 30’s, he has children and have both been married, so we are in no need or disire to have some big shindig again.
We do everything together, live together, own a home together etc, etc.
I have emotionally invested myself in both his life, and the life of his two children, whom I love very dearly to say the least.
Last night, when I asked him if we were going to get married on a date we discussed when we got engaged last year, he asked me what I was in such a rush for?
I dont understand how asking when we are going to get married, means a rush? Mind you, we were together for a little under a year and a half before we got together, so we have now been together a total of 2.5 years.
He then asked me, what I was up to? When I told him I didnt understand, he said it seemed as if I was “up to somthing”, since I was in such a RUSH to get married, and asked me what diffrence it would make if we got married tomorrow or ten years from now.
To say that it broke my heart is expressing it in the least. He asked me what the diffrence would be, and how it would change anything and I was in complete shock, and didnt even really know how to respond. (Still dont know the response as to what the diffrence is.) So, I rolled over and went to bed.
The only reason we live together now is because he was buying a home around the time we got engaged, and my aparatment lease was up, since we got engaged, it made sense for me to move in over renewing my lease, since I (thought) we would be married soon, and there was no reason to sign another lease.
Now I find myself pondering, well what if he is right? What is the diffrence?
Sorry for the vent/questions/unorginized was of this post, I just dont no what to do, or say at this point