Post # 1
We are only doing beer and wine at our reception. My parents are paying for almost everything and they are not particularly excited about having alcohol at all. We were able to meet in the middle as long as it was beer and wine only with no choice of liquor and as long as we paid for it. I feel bad cause I feel like I cant please everyone. My parents dont want it there, ,my fiance does, I’m indifferent. All of his family and friends drink and my family doesn’t so it kinda awkward especially since my parents are paying for everything. (His family isn’t able to help financially, which is OK 🙂 ) We are actually doing 2 receptions, the first one immediately after the ceremony at the church with no alcohol an then a smaller ‘party like’ reception which is where the beer and wine will be. So I think I have been more than compromising but I still want my parents comfortable at the 2nd venue. Any advice on how to get me out of the middle and make everyone feel ok!?! lol
Post # 3
@sarsa715: I think that’s totally fine, and a good compromise.
Post # 4
It’s what we’re doing. Adding in mixed drinks would more than triple the cost.
Post # 5
We’re doing beer and wine only too. Because it’s a restaurant, someone who really really wants booze can buy it. Or we can buy Uncle So and So a glass of his aged scotch if it really looks like he’s left out.
It was in part compromise and in part necessity. There are people we would have to reign in if shots were freely available, and there is only one small hotel within reasonable distance to our venue, so there’s too much driving hazard.
Post # 6
What is it about the alcohol that makes your parents uncomfortable? Are they worried about guests getting really rowdy, or about drunk driving, or do they just not like alcohol period at all?
There may be things you can do to put them more at ease, like limit the amount of alcohol served or provide transportation or coordinate designated drivers?
Post # 7
Beer and wine only is perfectly fine.
Post # 8
My parents and myself really were not raised around it. My dad comes from a long line of true southern baptist preachers haha and my mom just was never brought up around it. We do have some people at the wedding who would be hard to “reign in” as atalante said. That’s a really good idea about the designated drivers or having transportation at least ready and available. I think we are going to limit the alcohol anyway simply for financial reasons on our end.
Post # 9
We did beer/wine/champagne and no one complained. The cost for that package with 160 guests was almost $4K, and we just couldn’t afford to add liquor to the mix. I think it’s a perfect compromise.
Post # 10
I think that sounds perfect and a great compromise. If you haven’t learned already you soon will, you cannot please everyone especially with wedding planning. So make a decision that you and your FI are happy with and as long as it’s done with everyones best interest in mind it’ll be perfect.
Post # 11
we’re only doing beer and wine. i think it’s more than enough.