Post # 1
So my best friend/roommate and I are kind of both in the same boat with the whole waiting thing. Our guys are great friends too so we are kind of like a weird little family. So when the guys aren’t around we spend a lot of time gushing over all the waiting and as frustrating as it can be, it is a very exciting time in all of us ladies in waitings lives. SOOOO to my point, yesterday just the two of us girls were in the car on a long drive home gushing as usual and I brought up this forum. Here are her exact words “Ha wow, I’m not that pathetic that I have to go talk to complete strangers on the internet about it. Haha ok” OMG I wanted to crawl into the backseat hide undersomething and bawl my eyes out!! I felt like a complete idiot I mean here we are just doing our normal thing, and I thought she might think this forum as theraputic as I think it is. Instead I got shot down, WAY DOWN. OUCH. Well whenever there’s trouble in best friend paradise my SO is right there to listen to me vent and whipe my tears and just let me get it all out…it really helps keep the peace in my house lol. But I didn’t feel right venting to him about this one…so here I am venting to you “strangers on the internet”
so what do you really think are we crazy??
Post # 3
seriously, your not crazy! I think the waiting boards.. and well wedding bee in particular is just a good way and I think sometimes healthier for relationships around us. I guess it also depends what context you use weddingbee. I swear the amount of times that I would think that hubs was sick of me talking wedding that it would be great to jump on here and be in the same boat as other bees and I could healthly vent or talk about any issues that I was having and learn from other people with experience.
and well if you got told your crazy… imagine what I am atm… I dont think crazy is a word to describe it 😛 😛
*hugs* You will be right, and please dont desert us just yet. 😛
Post # 4
Lol WHATEVER. I think it is fine. Everyone has hobbies and ways to de-stress. Some people run. Some people eat a package of oreos. Some people chat with online “strangers” (although after over a year here I’d hardly call some of the girls strangers!).
I was here before I got engaged, I’m here since I’ve been engaged, and I’ll probably be here long after I’m married. If someone wants to judge my hobby they really need to get their own life and stop caring so much about mine.
Post # 5
@CorgiTales: well said corgi.
Your friend may not understand it, but we do – don’t worry we’re not crazy!
Post # 6
Nope, how is it crazy? Just ignore her. If she told anyone NOT waiting that she is in waiting, they’d call HER crazy!
Post # 7
She will come around. 🙂 She may be on these boards already!
Post # 8
That is her own issue, not yours! Don’t take it personally. You do whats right for you, and don’t let others define it.
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Post # 10
I agree with PPs, you’re not crazy. Personally, I think most of us are brilliant in comiserating with one another. It’s the same as venting to ‘real life’ friends and or a therapist. Course, The ‘Bee is free, lol, and sometimes it makes it easier to share certain details with a degree of anonymity.
Whatever, she’s lame for not enjoying the awesomeness that is WB! ((hugs))
Post # 11
@CorgiTales: I do all three. Althought I havent run in a while and I try to stick to about 3 oreos at a time 🙂
Nope, not crazy at all.
Post # 12
aww thanks I agree I guess I jus really needed to vent that more than anything, thanks for making a newbee feel so at home
Post # 13
I just love the comraderie- WB has a great group of awesome friendly women -and I’m not waiting or engaged, I’ve been married a LOOOOONNNNGGGG time, but I don’t have enough “off-site” girlfriends to hang with yet, and I love pretty wedding stuff, and chattin’ with everybody here. 🙂 So if there is anybody crazy around here it might be me!
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s pathetic. I think it’s a good way to prevent yourself from driving your friends and family crazy. I can’t even imagine what my friends would have thought if I’d emailed them my four shoe options with a poll…
I went to the Vancouver bee meetup, and of course for safety reasons had to tell my FI where I was going (the girls were decidedly NOT serial killers, and we should totally do it again). That was a little awkward explaining that I was meeting some girls that are planning weddings that I “met” on the internet.
Post # 15
@ames12708: Bah, she’s probably got copies of “The Commitment Plan” and “Men Women Love, Men Women Leave” stashed in her nightstand. It’s hard for me to believe any woman of a certain age, at a certain stage in her relationship (that does want to get married someday, obviously) can avoid getting antsy about it. And that antsiness has to go somewhere… If this is what you’re doing, and it’s keeping you from becoming neurotic and/or nagging the SO, I don’t see what could be pathetic about it. To me, it’s no different from a pregnant person being on an “expecting” forum on a page devoted to caring for newborns, or a high school student using the freshman board of a college site.