Post # 1
Am I the only one that gets kind of irritated when I see posts of recently engaged women asking if their diamonds or stones are too small or too big?
There are so many important things in life and there are people worrying about the size of the stone. ARGH!
I especially get irked when the stone is like 1 carat or higher and they think it’s too small. Let’s be real here bee’s!!
Post # 3
I completely agree. I just look at those posts as people trying to show off.
Post # 5
there was a post similar to this a few months back I think.. I think the issue (Of those posts) has gotten worse recently.
Definitely a lot of people attempting to show off and/or fishing for compliments recently.
Post # 6
I have been noticing it a lot recently as well. I usually don’t comment on those threads. I guess “is it big enough” wasn’t one of the things that popped into my head after I got engaged. In fact.. it still hasn’t crossed my mind. I was kinda more like… OMG I’M ENAGAGED!!! THIS IS F*CKING AWESOME!
Post # 8
What I’m surprised about is how people measure the size of their diamond to the size of their finger!? I never thought when I was trying on rings that I needed to figure out what % of my finger the ring would take up…. and up until I read about that here, I thought mine looked pretty fine!
And how could someone POSSIBLY ask if her ring is too big!?!? For real, some people would kill for a larger stone!
Post # 9
Don’t read the thread if you think the title might work you up. Most of them are like “zomg I haz engaged but my bling sucks”.
Post # 10
I think many women just feel a bit insecure about something new and very public they are wearing. The almost-constant focus on size on the bee always throws me a bit because it is not a factor that affects diamond beauty, but I guess they see all those Kardishan honkers on today’s celebs (sigh) and then they look at theirs and all they see is “it’s smaller.”
I say buying some ridiculously oversized Swarovski jewelry should be a good (and fun) way to get over that size obsession! I’ve got a necklace that the queen herself wouldn’t be able to match in diamonds… Kim K’s ring has nothing on it, size-wise! And the price, well, Kim K got ripped off hugely, if size is what counts! 🙂
Anyway, I think fiancees should reserve the right to feel a little insecure for at least the first month they are wearing their engagement ring. Not all fiancees feel that way but an adjustment period seems reasonable. If it’s been several months (or longer) though, it’s a little more concerning…
Post # 11
To me it’s the WB version of girls saying they’re fat/ugly when they’re obviously not to get attention and compliments.
Post # 12
@pfinarffle: I second this.
MESSAGE TO ALL BEES! Every ring may or may not be unique, but what is unique is the love shared between each couple. Everyone has different taste in jewelry for different reasons. The level of insecurity seen on the threads sometimes is astounding! If you love it, I love it! The end.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@BlondeBee: Haha, agreed. I was like “YESSSSSS PRETTY RINNNNGGGGG AWESOME FIANCEEEEEE YAYYYYYYYYY!!!”
Post # 14
Not that I care one way or the other, but this is the ring forum.
Post # 15
@BHB0526: Totally. It reminds me of girls (skinny or not skinny) saying, “Do I look fat? I think I’m fat” just to get people’s sympathy/comfort, only this particular insecurity crops up here on WB because so many of us look at bridal magazines and Pinterest and think our rings are supposed to cost $50k.
Post # 16
Actually, I sort of agonized over whether my stone was too big (but according to weddingbee, it’s average-sized). It’s actually how I found weddingbee. I was googling “average size (or cost) engagement ring” because I loved my ring when I first got it, but then felt sick afterwards when I realized how much it cost, esp. since most people in the area where I live wear much smaller rings. I considered exchanging it for a smaller stone, but Fiance wouldn’t hear of it.
Weddingbee made me feel much better about my ring, even though I never actually posted a picture or asked a question about it. My fears were put to rest by seeing a lot of people with the same size or bigger rings than me.
I agree with PPs though, some people do seem as if they’re just trying to show off.