Post # 1
I saw this video again recently (http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=nnyKkA05nYw)– so painful! And it got me thinking– has anyone ever been totally surprised by a proposal, or said no?
While many of us spent time waiting and wishing before our guys proposed, we all know that there’s an opposite side of the coin– the guy who is planning to propose to a girl who has NO IDEA it’s coming…and may not even say yes! I don’t think a lot of couples get engaged these days without at least discussing it abstractly first, but it does happen.
I’ll start: I was dating a guy who to this day is my least-favorite ex-boyfriend. Shamefully, it was a rebound relationship after the guy who at the time I thought I’d marry broke up with me, and I should never have gone out with him at all. He was really angry, unpleasant, and controlling and I really wanted to break up with him…I think he may have sensed that, because one day, he got down on one knee in the middle of a restaurant (it was actually a casual taco place) and proposed! I was really surprised, and honestly too scared of his reaction to say “no” (like I said, this was NOT a good relationship) so I kind of stammered and said “maybe later” and “not yet.” He started crying, threw some sacagawea dollars on the table (which covered a little less than half the bill, and was honestly just so random that I’ll never forget it) and stormed out. This was in his neighborhood not mine, and I didn’t have a car, so it took me a long time to figure out where I was and walk home, during which time he sent me 30+ messages about how horrible I was and what a bitch, etc.
We’d been dating for 3wks when this happen and needless to say, broke up quickly after that!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
whoa your ex boyfriend sounds crazy as hell. Good job dodging that bullet!
My first boyfriend I said “yes” to after about 2 months of dating (I was 16 and was like “yay someone wants to love me forever!”… ugh). But luckily I broke off the engagement after he suggested we “needed space” (which he was expecting me to cry and beg him not to leave me… and instead I was like “freedom! woo!”)
Post # 6
I was on a road trip with someone I was dating, and he suggested, as we passed a chapel, that we get married then and there. I thought he was joking and quickly realized he was serious. I put it off with a joke/funny statement, so I never really answered (so I put “maybe”). The relationship was over at that point anyway, I felt it.
Post # 7
I had a really weird situation with an ex I’ll call Bob. I broke up with Bob because I started having feelings for someone else. I’ll call that guy John. I really thought Bob was a great guy, but he just wasn’t for me. He confided in my best friend that he was planning on buying me an engagement ring and was going to “surprise” me with it to win me back. I had to call him and tell him that I knew what he was planning and that it was not going to happen. I felt terrible for being so mean but WTF was he thinking?!
I was with John for two very rocky years and about a week after I ended things for good, Bob texted me. I figured it must just be a coincidence because how could he possibly know anything about my breakup? We don’t really have mutual friends. He asked me if I wanted to meet up and I told him I was definitely not interested in dating him. He said that those weren’t his intentions but that he just wanted to catch up. So I figured why not? I met up with him for a very casual dinner and he spent the entire time trying to sell himself. Basically he wanted to get back together and he listed all of the reasons why I should give him a second chance. I was mortified and pretty pissed that he misled me. All in all I had to break his heart on three separate occasions. I really hope he’s moved on by now.
Post # 8
My long term high school boyfriend proposed. No ring. No real plan. Just we should get married. I told him we were way too young (for me!!!)
Post # 9
@PromiseRooster: Umm huge LOL at the sacagaweans! Soo random.
I said “not yet” to my ex.. He proposed after a year of dating and i was 19…just too early. Our relationship never really recovered, and we broke up 2 years later when I would’ve wanted him to propose lol.
I was very anxiously waiting for my FI to propose and was so confident of my answer “yes!” 🙂
Post # 10
Sort of. DH wanted to get married before I was ready, probably beginning two years before I said yes. But there was no firm proposal so much as conversations where he expressed his desire to marry me, and I told him that I wasn’t ready yet.
Well, unless you count the one New Year’s Eve where he drunkenly proposed to me in our friends’ basement. He didn’t remember it the next day, but at the time he kept insisting he was serious.
Post # 11
I was proposed to when I was 18. And pregnant. I said yes. But really shouldn’t have.
Post # 12
My ex, offhandedly proposed to me after getting a ring out of a gumball machine (no joke).. I told him no, that I wasn’t ready for that.. He proceeded to pester me to marry him until I broke up with him because I was sick of his lying.. and pestering…
Post # 13
Yes, a co-worker asked me to marry him so he could get his green card, even though I was in a relationship at the time. I said no.
Post # 14
I was proposed to by some random guy when I was walking back to my apartment in Brooklyn a few years back. I said no. Hah.
Post # 15
That video is so sad. 🙁 I wonder why she turned him down.
Post # 16
A homeless guy once started chatting to me outside of my university. I smiled and said goodbye and he yelled out “You’re gorgeous! MARRY ME!”. I told him I was already engaged and he told me to make sure my FI treated me right because “now he knows you’ve got options”.