Bees: Have you ever TURNED DOWN a proposal?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever declined a proposal?
    Yes - and I was expecting it : (12 votes)
    12 %
    Yes - and the proposal totally surprised me : (23 votes)
    23 %
    I said "maybe" or wasn't sure : (4 votes)
    4 %
    No, I accepted/ he hasn't proposed yet : (62 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 3
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

    whoa your ex boyfriend sounds crazy as hell. Good job dodging that bullet!

    My first boyfriend I said “yes” to after about 2 months of dating (I was 16 and was like “yay someone wants to love me forever!”… ugh). But luckily I broke off the engagement after he suggested we “needed space” (which he was expecting me to cry and beg him not to leave me… and instead I was like “freedom! woo!”)

    Post # 4
    Member
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Only an indecent one.

    Post # 6
    Member
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I was on a road trip with someone I was dating, and he suggested, as we passed a chapel, that we get married then and there.  I thought he was joking and quickly realized he was serious.  I put it off with a joke/funny statement, so I never really answered (so I put “maybe”).  The relationship was over at that point anyway, I felt it.

    Post # 7
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    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I had a really weird situation with an ex I’ll call Bob. I broke up with Bob because I started having feelings for someone else. I’ll call that guy John. I really thought Bob was a great guy, but he just wasn’t for me. He confided in my best friend that he was planning on buying me an engagement ring and was going to “surprise” me with it to win me back. I had to call him and tell him that I knew what he was planning and that it was not going to happen. I felt terrible for being so mean but WTF was he thinking?!

    I was with John for two very rocky years and about a week after I ended things for good, Bob texted me. I figured it must just be a coincidence because how could he possibly know anything about my breakup? We don’t really have mutual friends. He asked me if I wanted to meet up and I told him I was definitely not interested in dating him. He said that those weren’t his intentions but that he just wanted to catch up. So I figured why not? I met up with him for a very casual dinner and he spent the entire time trying to sell himself. Basically he wanted to get back together and he listed all of the reasons why I should give him a second chance. I was mortified and pretty pissed that he misled me. All in all I had to break his heart on three separate occasions. I really hope he’s moved on by now.

    Post # 8
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    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My long term high school boyfriend proposed. No ring. No real plan. Just we should  get married. I told him we were way too young (for me!!!)

    Post # 9
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    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @PromiseRooster:  Umm huge LOL at the sacagaweans! Soo random. 

    I said “not yet” to my ex.. He proposed after a year of dating and i was 19…just too early. Our relationship never really recovered, and we broke up 2 years later when I would’ve wanted him to propose lol. 

    I was very anxiously waiting for my FI to propose and was so confident of my answer “yes!” 🙂 

    Post # 10
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    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Sort of. DH wanted to get married before I was ready, probably beginning two years before I said yes. But there was no firm proposal so much as conversations where he expressed his desire to marry me, and I told him that I wasn’t ready yet.

    Well, unless you count the one New Year’s Eve where he drunkenly proposed to me in our friends’ basement. He didn’t remember it the next day, but at the time he kept insisting he was serious.

    Post # 11
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I was proposed to when I was 18. And pregnant. I said yes. But really shouldn’t have. 

    Post # 12
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    1611 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My ex, offhandedly proposed to me after getting a ring out of a gumball machine (no joke).. I told him no, that I wasn’t ready for that.. He proceeded to pester me to marry him until I broke up with him because I was sick of his lying.. and pestering…

    Post # 13
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    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Yes, a co-worker asked me to marry him so he could get his green card, even though I was in a relationship at the time. I said no.

    Post # 14
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I was proposed to by some random guy when I was walking back to my apartment in Brooklyn a few years back. I said no. Hah.

    Post # 15
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    3637 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    That video is so sad. 🙁 I wonder why she turned him down.

    Post # 16
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    1226 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    A homeless guy once started chatting to me outside of my university. I smiled and said goodbye and he yelled out “You’re gorgeous! MARRY ME!”. I told him I was already engaged and he told me to make sure my FI treated me right because “now he knows you’ve got options”.

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