Post # 1
SO and I have talked about being engaged, he said he’d propose by the end of year back in January, so it’s been a while. Anyway, I’ve never really gotten my hopes up about the proposal, meaning I have no expectations of when or how, but now my birthday is next week and I’m starting to think maybe he’ll do it then. I’ve organised a day outing with family and friends at a zoo on the Saturday, so I’m not sure if he’d do it then or on the Monday which is my actual birthday. Anytime I bring up presents he tells me to shush and “let it be a surprise”. (FYI I’m not a huge fan of surprises).
Anyway, I’m starting to get really excited about it and I really don’t want to. I don’t want to feel disappointed if it doesn’t happen and then he’ll be able to read it all over my face and feel bad too. I’m trying to focus on the day at the zoo on Saturday and all the awesome animals we’ll see, then being able to relax at home my birthday. I’ve been trying to do things to distract myself from it, but even family and friends are saying they think it’d be a great time for him to propose. In all honesty, I don’t even know if the jeweller has fiinished making the ring we were getting custom made, so it may not even be possible for SO to propose.
Bees, PLEASE help me think of ways to not get my hopes up about this. I don’t want him to feel bad if he doesn’t do it on my birthday and waits for a bit longer, but I know it will be all over my face… eck! I’ve never felt a “this could be it” moment before and I didn’t want to for this exact reason! Help… x
Post # 3
Ohhhh, I know how this feels!!! I got myself all worked up over Valentines day this year (then he proposed three weeks later on our anniversay), so on Val Day, I was super excited and hopeful and it didn’t happen, I was so upset. I tried to focus on having a good time and it didn’t work.
The next day, I told him how upset I was (because I should be able to tell him anything and always share my feelings) and he was sorry I was upset, but said he had something even better planned (which he did).
So, if it doesn’t happen, there is no reason you can’t be upset and even tell him you’re upset or let him see it, there’s no reason to have to hide how you feel. You’re going to be married one day, so you should never have to put up a front for him.
Be hopeful, be excited, and don’t be upset if it doesn’t happen, because it will- just not that day!!
Post # 4
OMG well it IS exciting to hear that he has set an expectation that it’ll happen at the end of the year. The clock is ticking!!
Here’s my experience from reading proposals, and my personal experience….Men usually plan the proposal themselves. I remember that I planned an entire trip to Disney right after my graduation, thinking that the timing would be PERFECT for us, on vacation, I just finished my BA in Anthro….and I was a litte let down that it didn’t happen.
After reading the other proposals here and talking to my other friends who got engaged, their men started to act weird, and were pushy about going somewhere off guard (somewhere to eat, walk in the park, etc). I would just keep this in mind. You organized an entire fun trip for your family…I’m not saying it’s NOT going to happen but a better bet might be on your bday.
Post # 5
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@krayzay87: I wish I could give u some words of wisdom but I am on the same boat as u r 🙁 sadly. SO said he will propose to me in the next 6 months. I am not sure when or how. I been waiting for it for a while….my bd is also soon…but I refuse to get all excited just bc I know he won’t. we have the night planned out already… 🙁 he has the ring already…but no clue as to when. I keep thinking in dec but I honestly don’t want to get myself worked up 🙁 ugh I’m so tired of waiting. try to focus on other things….and always know that if he doesn’t propose that night there is always another day 🙂 hope this helps a bit. I’m sorry I’m so out words bc I feel the same exact way.