Post # 1
so tonight me and my fiancee went to a friends birthday party. She had it at her place and all the people there my fiancee knows and is friends with them. well when my fiancee went to the washroom i just stayed where i was and waited for him to come back.
Then theres was one a guy my fiancee knew, some other woman, and another guy. I was playing with my phone and the guy my fiancee knows said something to me. I couldnt hear him so i asked him what, he said something again but i couldnt hear him, so i laughed a bit and started playing with my phone again. The only thing is im thinking, what if he was saying something, inapprioate, and i just laughed and didnt say anything. so i was feeling super guilty and i told my fiancee what happened, and asked if i should go back to him and ask him what he said.
My fiancee reassured me that he knows that guy and he wouldnt be stupid enough to hit on me knowing im his fiancee. But i cant help to feel horrible about not paying attention to what that idoit was saying(the music was so loud)
Post # 3
i wouldnt even worry about it. you were honest and told your fiancee you didnt hear the guy, so please dont worry. you havent done anything wrong xo
Post # 4
@ashley050406: not at all, also if you had gone back to ask him that would have been super awkward & im sure the guy was only making polite small talk & he would feel like you thought he was a sleaze if you asked him what he had said. I would just forget it and not worry about it all all anymore.
Post # 5
Even if it turned out the guy was hitting on you, it hardly matters that you laughed. You didn’t hear the guy! Everyone does the fake laugh/nod and smile at loud parties one time or another. Don’t lose sleep over it
Post # 6
He could have been saying anything. I wouldn’t worry about it. If he ends up hitting on you in the future you can just politely shoot him down. I don’t think you should be so upset over this. You told your FI, life is good!
Post # 7
I think you’re good! You told your FI, he said NBD your in the clear! Besides it was an honest mistake.
Post # 8
Not to be mean but you’re being kinda silly. He could have asked you if it’s raining outside for all you know. Don’t get yourself so worked up!
Post # 9
Relax and let it go. It could be a lesson though. I hate it when someone is playing on their phone, texting or making a call at a social occasion. Unless you are expecting an emergecny call, turn your phone off and leave it in your purse.
Post # 10
you are over thinking a non issue but next time stop playing on your freaking phone when someone is speaking to you so you dont have to keep asking them to repeat themselves and still not give them the courtesy of listening – thats rude
Post # 11
I wouldn’t even worry about it. I think you are overthinking it and stressing yourself out. I probably would have done what you did too. Just let it go…
Post # 12
Yeah, I think the guy was probably just making conversation. He probably thought you were bored, because you were playing with your phone instead of enjoying the party.
I agree with the other posters who suggest leaving your phone in your purse at parties in the future.
ETA: You definitely have nothing to feel guilty about, as far as accidentally flirting with someone, or whatever you’re worried about.
Post # 13
And what if he was saying something that was absolutely appropriate? You don’t know what he said. Feeling guilty for something that may not have happened that you didn’t consciously participate in is a whole lot of wasted energy. It’s fine.
Post # 14
@ashley050406: …..i am confused
Is there some reason why you think the guy said something inappropriate?
Post # 15
How old are you? I’m asking because this is totally a non-issue. And also because its rude to play on your phone instead of making small talk (though believe me i hate small talk more than anyone)