Bees, I need advice!

posted 3 years ago in College
Post # 3
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1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@anonbee1122:  i wouldn’t let one mentor (who sounds crazy btw) change your whole career path.  are there other people who worked closely with you at that job who could give you some feedback?  did you talk to your school about what happened?  i understand how you feel and would probably be wanting to do the same thing, but i don’t think you should just give up when you may indeed have been doing well.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@anonbee1122:  I wouldn’t let one evaluation change my career path. Does your university not have policies around evaluations? The university I attended required students to be given notice if there was going to be anything negative on their evaluation or any deterioration on their marks- so they had a chance to improve before their evaluation was in writing.

 

Post # 7
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1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@anonbee1122:  this whole thing is so weird. did she say why she suddenly decided you weren’t doing well anymore?

Post # 8
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Advice: Do not let your supervisor be the reason you leave your program. If you loved what you were doing internship wise before you received that out of the blue eval, stick with it. Trust me, it will be worth it. It might be tough right now, but in a few months things will smooth out and get better. But, if you truly aren’t sure… Take a break. Sometimes we need to take a step back and evaluate what we’re doing.

I have a year long internship for my MA program and my first supervisor was god awful and completely incompetant. She was a bully and abusive and it took several months of her harrassing me after I switched supervisors for it to come out that she pretty much treated everyone like this- intern or not. After our program director left, those who were higher up found out and were especially pissed she had treated an intern that way and she was basically forced to leave. (Yay, retribution). I didn’t feel in that process that I got any support from my school… I looked at other programs, I looked into getting an internship elseware and everything  kept falling through. Now, I am so glad I toughed it out. I love what I do and learned that I wasnt just some incompetant idiot like my supervisor made me feel.
 

Post # 9
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1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@anonbee1122:  don’t let one bad eval completely derail you! Bad reviews happen during almost everyone’s career/school, and this does not mean you’re a failure in any way. Frankly, she sounds like a jerk and a shitty mentor – there should be NO surprises in evaluations, not in academia and not in the professional world, so this is a huge failure on her part. I know it hurts and is so hard, but don’t get discouraged!

 

Post # 11
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454 posts
Helper bee

In undergrad Resident Advisor positions, we would get appraisals and I had the same thing. All of a sudden conversations that were casual and forgiving were written in ways that could have killed me.

I would have a conversation with that mentor and ask her to rearrange her feedback style. It sounds like the conversations that you’ve had with her are casual, but she’s actually giving you feedback in a passive aggressive way. If/when you get a new mentor, have a convo with them that clearly lays out how you like to receive feedback as your current mentor feedback style isn’t working for you or isn’t clear.

But like other bee’s said, I wouldn’t change my career path because someone can’t give you correct feedback. screw her! lol But if you’re looking to gain a lot of experience, maybe you can do another section of your internship in another vicinity or something if you’re dead set on moving based on your bad experience.

Post # 12
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@anonbee1122:  Are you just interning right now, or do you have courseword too? Could you take the semester off interning to sort of “cool off” and just take classes? 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@anonbee1122:  I would write out a letter challenging her evaluation and outlining your side of how she didn’t raise any of these things as serious issues with you.

It really doesn’t matter if she paints you as dishonest because your school should have a good idea as to the type of person you are. If you can formally challenge it or even just add a letter they may ask your teachers if that sounds like you at all. 

They may also prevent students from going there in the future if you make it clear that you weren’t treated fairly!

I would keep on pushing through and work harder at your next placement. Learn from what you apparently didn’t do well on and ask your mentor for honest feedback! To me it really sounds like it was something personal with her and she wanted to throw you under the bus – she may have heard a rumour or gossip about what you said/did.

I learned to really take evaluations with a grain of salt as long as it doesn’t say you are a complete failure!

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