Post # 1
Do your parents like your fiance? Do they ever make comments about how they think you should wait about getting married? My fiance has done everything possible to try and become close with my parents. However, my parents have something to say about him all the time. It has become so bad that my mother is wanting me to move my wedding and my father is saying I’m too young to get married. I will be 22 when I get married almost 23. I don’t think that is too young. I am so fed up and I just needed a place to vent.
Post # 3
Let me ask a few questions first. Is this your first real relationship? how long have you been together? do you still live at home? what kinds of things do they say about him (real issues, or are they nit picking)?
I neve really had these issues, our families were pretty accepting of each of us from the beginning. We started dating when I was 20, got engaged at 23, and married at 25. No one ever said we were too young, most of them said it was about time!
Post # 4
I was in a relationship before this one when I was younger. The guy treated me horribly. This guy is amazing. We have been together since senior year of highschool so almost 4 years. We are staying with my parents right now and we pay rent. The only reason we are staying with my parents is because everytime I have mentioned us getting our own place they have completely freaked out. They make comments about the way he does certain things. How he evidentaly thinks he is never wrong… just nit picking I guess.
Post # 5
I had a horrible relationship before my Fiance as well, so when I started dating my Fiance my parents were actually more excited. They loved him and accepted him so much that my mom would interfere with every little thing I said. It was almost as if they were afraid if I did one little thing wrong, he’d leave me. We have been working on this as a family (tell my mom she needs to back off) and it is getting better, so I have had an opposite reaction from my parents.
Could they maybe have apprehension because you still live at home with them? Even though you pay rent, they may think that the maturity level isn’t there if you haven’t gone out on your own.
I don’t think 22 is too young, and if that is their only issue you have to explain to them that even though you are 22 you are mature and SHOW them you are mature. I can’t help but think your Fiance has done something else to make them not like him, unless your parents are just nit-picky, but maybe that is something that you need to sit down with them over and ask them straight out to be honest about. We can give you all the advice in the world, but ultimately you will need to have an honest discussion with your parents.