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posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What Time Should Our Ceremony Begin?
    4:00pm : (5 votes)
    19 %
    4:30pm : (5 votes)
    19 %
    5:00pm : (15 votes)
    58 %
    Other (Explained Below) : (1 votes)
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    mmm31911    May 14, 2011  

    We are getting married March 19th 2011 and I have NO IDEA what time the ceremony should begin. We are having a four hour reception afterwards. We don't want early afternoon. I just don't have a clue. I only discovered this because I need to start designing my invites. Embarassed

    What time do you think the ceremony should begin?

    TIA!

     
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    SouthernTulip    October 23, 2010   Georgia

    Well you said that you didn't want early afternoon, so it would seem like you want an evening wedding and reception?

    Are you having it indoors or outdoors (the ceremony)?

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    Are you having a cocktail hour in between? Do you have to travel to the reception from the ceremony? And do you wish to take pictures in between?

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    Do you have a set time that you need to be out of your reception venue by? Say you need to be out by midnight. Leave 30 minutes for clearing up, so your reception should ideally end by 11:30. You want at least 4 hours of reception so let's say you start that at 7:00PM. Then you have to decide if you're having a cocktail hour for your guests if you're taking photos after your ceremony. So if you try to have your ceremony finish 1.5 hours before then you need it to finish by 6:30. Do you know how long your ceremony will take? With all this info in mind I'd probably look at starting your ceremony at 4:00 so you have extra time for your reception later - but that's just me. 
    Hope that's helpful!

     
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    mmm31911    May 14, 2011  

    @SouthernTulip: I just don't want it before 3pm. The ceremony is outdoors. The reception is indoors.

    @roxy821: We are not having a cocktail hour inbetween per say, but we are taking photos while the guests are able to get a drink from the bar. I guess it kind of is. The ceremony and reception are at the same place.

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    We had a 4:30 ceremony followed by a reception from 6-11pm and it worked out perfectly!

    Plus, the old wives tale says that it's better luck to be married on the half hour than the hour so that the hand on the clock is rising.  I'm not superstitious or anything but when it doesn't appear you have anything dictating the time other than personal preference, why not follow the old wives tale?

     
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    Ms. Meowerson    May 12, 2012  

    how long is your ceremony?  just remember that the ceremony will start at least 10-15 minutes after the stated time anyways.

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    @Mrs.KMM:How funny, I've never heard that old wives tale before! Now it's got me thinking... was our ceremony at 10 or 10:30?! Haha.

     
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    Allyser    September 1, 2010  

    are you serving dinner? 

    We had our ceremony at 6:30 followed by dinner and dancing immediately following. The ceremony and reception were at the same places also. The ceremony ended up starting at 6:45ish and we ended the night at 11:30. 

     

     
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    Mrs Franks    August 20, 2011   Estes Park, CO

    Several factors to consider:

    • How long is the ceremony going to be?
    • Will there be a cocktail hour between? (Hour meaning hour, no longer, or else you'll have sloppy drunks probably lol)
    • How late can you be at your venue?
    • How formal/casual is the wedding? The later in the day, the more formal, traditionally speaking.

    To give you an idea, our wedding is semi-formal, ceremony/reception at the same place, and we can stay until 11pm. So, our ceremony is 5 - 5:30, cocktails from 5:30 - 6:30, and reception from 6:30 - 11pm (dinner served at 7pm), giving us a technical 4.5hour reception plus another hour for cocktails.

     
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    SouthernTulip    October 23, 2010   Georgia

    Depending on a few of the factors others have mentioned (sit down dinner, when you have to be out of the place) if you're not having a formal dinner I would think right at maybe a few minutes before dusk would be super pretty.  I always liked when it was just dark enough that a candle lined aisle looked awesome -but that's me.  Mid march in SC (are you in the mountains or in the flat area?) the sun should be at dusk like 6 ish (there are more exact methods of figuring that out though.

     

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    I would go with a 4pm ceremony and 6-11pm reception. This would give you a little time in case you are running a little bit behind and also leaves an hour for pictures.

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    To choose a ceremony start time you need to consider the following

    When does the reception have to start? 

    How long do you want the ceremony to last?

    How much of a time gap do you want/need between ceremony and reception? 

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    @littlemissmoo: FYI  http://www.bridalshower.com/planning/folklore/index.html

    "Some people believed that the wedding ceremony should be completed between the half hour and the hour. The clock hand rising towards the hour, signified success and rising fortune."

    Not that it truely means anything (unless you're superstitious) but just something kind of fun to think about and do if nothing else in the schedule prevents it!

     
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    I voted for 4:30PM then your reception will probably start around sunset (if you are doing a cocktail hour afterwards) which I think would make the lighting so romantic around that time. 

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    @Mrs.KMM:Aw, that's kinda cute. Thanks for the info. 

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    @Mrs.KMM: I've heard that! It made us happy about choosing 5:30 for our ceremony time instead of 5:00 (among other reasons, of course). :)

     
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    ncfirechic    October 3, 2010  

    Oh, man!  I wish I had heard that old wives tale before now!  So I say 4:30 P.M.  Oh, and if your ceremony is outdoors and you are wanting to know what time the sun is supposed to set go to www.sunrisesunset.com.  I used it for our wedding day.

     
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    nmsoonerbride    March 19, 2011   Live in New Mexico, wedding in Oklahoma City

    Hi date twin!

    We are doing 5:30 because sunset should be around 7:20 that night, and so my photog thinks if we finish the ceremony at six we'll have good light for outdoor pictures.  (I only know this because of my photographer...I would have chosen 5 if left to my own devices)

     
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    Ivlanie    December 31, 2010  

    If you are having an outdoor ceremony I would totally go for sometime near sunset.

    It won't be as hot for your guest (not sure if heat is an issues in your city but it would be for me!) and hopefully no one has the sun glaring in there faces at full strength.

    Also sunset pics are beautiful!

     

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