- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So my wedding has come and gone–5.25.2012.I’m happy to be married and happy to be start a life with my wonderful husband.
Like many bees, my wedding day was not perfect (a bug was smashed on the front of my dress leaving a nice bloodly splotch 5 minutes before I was due down the aisle). However, there are a few things that are bothering me more than others.
I hated my hair. I made the mistake of having a family friend do my hair, and I ended up with stringy Shirly Temple curls that sucked up the length of my hair. I combed it out because I hated it. So my hair was super poofy (African American Hair) for the whole day.
The biggest pain–my now SIL was a brat. Prior to the wedding, she moved her house closing up two weeks so that it would fall on our wedding day. I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, but her mother let it slip that she actually requested that it be moved to our wedding day. As a result, she dropped her kids off at the venue until she could get there hours later. Several times staff had to redirect their wild behavior and my sister basically had to barricade them out of the bridal area (the venue didn’t want them in there either).
The kicker to the whole thing is that toward the end of the evening, Darling Husband and I went to put our bags into the car and when we came back (5 minutes REALLY), SIL had started tearing the event down. She had removed all of our chair covers and thrown them into a big trash bag. People were so confused that they started leaving or helping to tear down. So we didn’t actually get the send-off that was planned. She totally stole the direction of the events and just decided that the wedding was over because she wanted it to be over.
After we left, she snagged a bunch of gifts and decorative materials and took them to her house, where DHs estranged father (who was not invited to the wedding) was staying, so that we would have to deal with him to get our stuff. Nothing was EVER supposed to go with her. She wasn’t part of the plan. My sister was in charge, but she was helping me get my stuff into the car. SIL just decided that she was going to take it upon herself to change the plan that she was never even a part of–much less in charge of.
My family was so offended that I’ve heard about her actions from 3 different people now. She chose to do something else that day, and that was fine, but she should’ve just left our wedding alone. Darling Husband called her and she had a response for everything that sounded so rehearsed that even Darling Husband rolled his eyes. I know that I should just let it go, but I’m still pissed and I kind of want to avoid her for a while.
I’m still hanging on to this stuff. Do I just let it run its course? How do I let it go?