Post # 1
I’m just getting very sad and over whelmed lately about the wedding and i mean in a happy sad, i think to myself is it all too big to save for can we do it/ and we can.
I’m going to be 40 when we get married. am i being silly to want my fairytale?
is it to have am i too old to have the wedding i want?
I’m just feeling so sad and blue, am i too old for a bachelorette party?
i don’t want anything crazy just to dress up and hang with the girls dinner some drinks.
I’m just feeling really scattered. i want to get married more then anything i love my FI.
so i don’t understand why im just feeling blue today like the whole thing is silly.
not getting married being silly just the planning part.
Post # 3
Awww, don’t feel silly! I’m going to be an older bride too and just focus on planning a day of joy 🙂
Post # 4
@MissMeowMeow: thank you hun ; ) i feel better now that i got our budget down to 13,000 thank the good Lord ; ) God is good!
Post # 5
I am. Mostly because everything the FI and I planned has been flushed down the drain. The only thing I have is a dress, bridesmaid dresses, and a date. The venue we picked we had to cancel and now we have to find a new church (a lot of issues with the new pastor.) I want to get this stuff planned already before we start school because it’s crazy during that time! I’m blue because of that and the fact that my family wants nothing to do with the planning, don’t even ask how it’s going. I’m impatient with the FI because he’s like “it’ll get done, don’t worry.” I want to get it DONE already! Ugh 🙁
Post # 6
Every girl deserves her day no matter what age she is! Don’t get down on yourself! 40 is not even old! If I see “older” brides, I just feel happy they found someone that makes them happy not judging them for having a wedding lol
Post # 7
@Firemansgirl: Aww thank you ; )
Post # 8
I’m feeling them. I was just saying tonight that we waited too long and now we’re fat and slobbish. That if we did this years ago we could just be planning a vacation right now lol. It’s hard to believe something so wonderful can feel so stressful.
Post # 9
After the marriage proposal, the reality dust settles. The bride sets off to work out her wedding plans. It’s at this stage, when the engagement bliss is slowly being dampened by the more serious and sober mindset that the bride realizes that planning a wedding is harder than she thought. As she begins experiencing the see-saw effect of emotions that result from this challenging task she is confronted by things that she will in time learn to master and overcome.
Because a wedding has so many facets tied to it, it only seems fitting that the solution is also contained therein. I have found that as a wedding professional, it’s a simple rule we’ve heard more than once in our lifetime.Take one step at at a time, over time. When you practice this solution, the demand upon your resources is incredibly manageable. You avoid becoming overwhelmed by the process, because there’s something about a small step formula that gives you the ability to manage what you thought impossible and also gives you a sense of accomplishment as you check off each completed task.
Some brides feel pressures of having a “perceived” audience, a conservative budget and a sensitive time frame. Every bride will come to terms with these stressors in her own time. Initially many brides may feel stuck somewhere in reverse once they are in the planning stages Pricing, fear of compromising quality or vision can be some concerns for a bride. Imagined fears and doubts can take their toll on the once content bride. It’s not hopeless though. Being plan specific by doing your homework and determining the average price ranges in your area for vendors and venues will give you an idea of the type of budget you will need to realistically set. Achieving your dream wedding is very do-able when you get down to the simple 1-2-3 of it.
The more time you have before your wedding date to prepare financially by making monthly installments the better. If you are able to make large chunk payments toward the initially installments, you can pay it off sooner. This will free up money in the future making additional purchases possible and very likely.
One last thing that I wanted to touch on was the age and fairytale wedding topic you mentioned . Being
40 doesn’t disqualifie you from a right to celebrate and enjoy festivities. 40 years old is considered a youthful age. I should know…I’m forty and I’m young. Yes, I will wear white when I get married. I will have a beautiful fairytale wedding and yep, you guessed I will make sure my friends throw me a bachellorette party. I’m going to spoil myself “silly” and enjoy doing it, because I deserve it. And you do too.