Post # 1
The title pretty much sums it up. I don’t know if I have SAD but it’s certainly something. Maybe it’s just PMS but it seems to be for most of the month anyway but worse a couple days before, during and a couple days after my period (right now). I won’t go into too much detail because talking about it makes me upset and I’m at work.
There’s literally nothing happening in my life to make me feel this way, we’ve got a lot of exciting stuff on the go. We’re building a house this year, we’ll soon have a new nephew and I just got a job that I love. But some mornings I’ll wake up and be sad. Now I was never really one for getting up early but I can’t see that affecting it much. And I’ve always been a crier but lately every week day has been “one of those days”. You know those. Funny thing is, by around lunch time and for the rest of the day I’m perfectly fine! It’s frustrating.
Does this happen for anyone else? Someone has to be able to relate. Thanks even just for letting me get that out. Phew!
Post # 3
Could be that you’re hitting goals and don’t have much more to look forward to? I went through that period when I bought my house last year. That was “THE GOAL” since I was 16 and I should have been happy that I hit it sooner than expected, but I just felt kind of bleh, sad, out of it.
I might suggest focusing on a new goal, find something that you want to accomplish or do, could be finishing a book, learning a new language, a trip to somewhere specific, anything really. The fact that you get better mid way through the day says its probably that lack of focus. By Lunch you’re into work and onto things so you don’t feel this overwhelming sense of nothing, you’re focused.
I would also recommend going to the Dr and having your bloodwork done to ensure that everything is fine there as well. But if you’re an “Anti-meds” or Anti-Dr person, then try the goal setting first. People think accomplishing what you want should make you happy, but if they never “finished” the goals they have on the go, they don’t understand how that accomplishment can leave you feeling empty and sad.
Post # 4
@Mrs. Mustang: Me, I’m in the same boat.
We just married in January. I think I’m having a huge adjustment disorder or something. Moving, leaving my house, working full time, figuring out how to be a spouse, and step mom, etc. The tail end of winter isn’t helping, for sure.
My first instinct when I wake up in the morning is to cry. I often cry before I fall asleep too. Often it is impossible for me to definitively state exactly why I’m so sad, but I am.
Ive chalked it up to post wedding blues, recognizing the huge and major changes, weather.
Ive decided I simply cannot go on like this. I’m scheduling an appt with a family therapist to talk things out, and I’m very seriously considering seeing my doc about taking wellbutrin again, which helped immensely a few years ago.
I have a wonderful and loving husband. I have good friends, and family to support me….which in some sense just baffles me even further, as to WHY I’m such a mess all of a sudden.
So no, you aren’t alone. I hope you are able to find some peace and happiness and relief soon, just as I am for myself 🙂 ((((hugs))))
Post # 5
I think lots of people can have feelings like yours and I’ve definitely been one of them. There’s lots of reasons for us feeling a bit down or sad and they’re all unique to our lives and situations. But something someone once pointed out to me could be useful. Change is hard, even if it’s change in an awesome way. Building a house and changing jobs are each very emotional and likely stressful things and they can take their toll as you adjust.
For me, I met my FI, moved out of home, then moved interstate, then got my first full time job then bought a house, in the space of about 2 years. All wonderful joyful things, but as my friend counselled, they’re still intense and can time some time to adjust to.
Give yourself some time to settle into yourself, take care of yourself and make sure you use any support networks you have, whether it’s someone to talk to or just a fun day out with the girls. I think a PP’s suggestion to check things out medically is a good idea. It’s good to just be able to desregard that as a potential issue and achieve some peace of mind.
You’re never alone and if nothing else, you’ve a whole bunch of lovely ladies on here ready to help in any way we can 🙂 Hugs to you.
Post # 6
@Elky: Thank you, I really like that idea. It feels like everything is just building up and supposed to be great but what is going to happen once it’s over, ya know? I’m due for bloodwork soon and I’ve got to go get a new form. I’m going to talk to my doctor about it. I’ve recently been prescribed medication for my high cholesterol and may have to take it for ever if I can’t get the number down on my own. I know that’s something playing on the back of my mind when I don’t have time to go to the gym.
@Sweetjennygirl: Thank you so much for your story. I think I could have written most of it. It boggles my mind how I can cry falling asleep and when I wake up. I don’t understand. It’s comforting to hear about someone else in the same situation.
@graciej: Thank you, thank you, thank you. If anything, that really touched me. I truely appreciate it. Big time.
Post # 7
Sometimes it is your body and not something in your life that can make you depressed. How much sunlight do you get? A lack of vitamin D can cause depression like symptoms. Thyroid problems and other hormonal disorders can also cause depression like symptoms. SADS is also a likely suspect and affects a lot of people who don;t even realise.
My cousin had a hormonal imbalance (of the female variety) and because the doctor just wrote it off as depression it went untreated and she ended up in a catatonic state. She ended up in the psychiatric unit of the local hospital and they ran all the usual tests and couldn”t figure it out until an intern said to run her estrogen levels.
Post # 8
@j_jaye: That’s awful! It’s good that they were able to figure it out though.
I barely get any sunlight. I work from 8-5 and by the time I get off it’s almost dark, same with when we leave the house. I live in a fairly foggy city as well. I don’t really have anything to do outdoors on my lunch break right now because I work on a busy street and the sidewalks are full of high snow. I don’t have a car at work either so I can’t drive anywhere on my break. Thanks for pointing that out, the lack of vitamin D was one of my first guesses.
Post # 9
@Mrs. Mustang: I can relate. I think it’s pretty normal to not always feel happy – like who does?? From about October onwards I’m way more depressed (probably SAD)… stuck indoors all winter… it really sucks. I also despise mornings.
I’m also a really anxious person so that doesn’t help things.
I am pretty sure I don’t have depression…. I chalk it up to the winter blues so I take vitamin D, sometimes use my sun lamp thing, look forward to vactions (just got back from one and am super bummed out this morning), try to exercise, etc.
I think if you feel like this for 2 weeks straight, you’re supposed to see a doctor since that could be a sign of proper clinical depression.
Post # 10
@canarydiamond: Thanks! You mentioned something I never thought of saying as well. I’m an anxious person and I don’t like change. Sometimes if I don’t do certain things at a certain time in the day I can get very down about it.
Maybe this is something I should talk to my doctor about once I start noting when it happens.
I feel bad for my husband too. I try to put it aside around him as to not bring him down. But I should be much more outgoing and I’d imagine its affecting him too. Its frustrating because there’s really nothing in my life at all that I have a need to feel bad about. I love it. I always try to savor moments and things, even if they’re small like enjoying a cup of coffee uninterrupted at work, or the way the sun shines in through the window. I’m glad it doesn’t affect my weekends though which leads me to believe it’s got something to do with having to get up for work.
Thanks for all your support bees. It’s nice to have people to confide in about this.
Post # 11
I also have those ups and downs for no reason… Today I’ve also been feeling like how you do, and that puts me in a grumpy mood. It happens to me once in a week more or less. I went to a psychiatrist a few days ago to talk about it, and he told me that I make myself sad and I try to find reasons to be sad for no reason. He said it’s normal that no one can be happy all the time so I should stop worrying and thinking about it so much, because this would make me feel worse. It helps a little to know there are others like me, though. 🙂