(Closed) Bees, I'm sad… and I don't know why

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Could be that you’re hitting goals and don’t have much more to look forward to? I went through that period when I bought my house last year. That was “THE GOAL” since I was 16 and I should have been happy that I hit it sooner than expected, but I just felt kind of bleh, sad, out of it.

I might suggest focusing on a new goal, find something that you want to accomplish or do, could be finishing a book, learning a new language, a trip to somewhere specific, anything really. The fact that you get better mid way through the day says its probably that lack of focus. By Lunch you’re into work and onto things so you don’t feel this overwhelming sense of nothing, you’re focused.

I would also recommend going to the Dr and having your bloodwork done to ensure that everything is fine there as well. But if you’re an “Anti-meds” or Anti-Dr person, then try the goal setting first. People think accomplishing what you want should make you happy, but if they never “finished” the goals they have on the go, they don’t understand how that accomplishment can leave you feeling empty and sad.

Post # 4
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Mrs. Mustang:  Me, I’m in the same boat.

We just married in January. I think I’m having a huge adjustment disorder or something. Moving, leaving my house, working full time, figuring out how to be a spouse, and step mom, etc. The tail end of winter isn’t helping, for sure. 

My first instinct when I wake up in the morning is to cry. I often cry before I fall asleep too. Often it is impossible for me to definitively state exactly why I’m so sad, but I am.

Ive chalked it up to post wedding blues, recognizing the huge and major changes, weather. 

Ive decided I simply cannot go on like this. I’m scheduling an appt with a family therapist to talk things out, and I’m very seriously considering seeing my doc about taking wellbutrin again, which helped immensely a few years ago. 

I have a wonderful and loving husband. I have good friends, and family to support me….which in some sense just baffles me even further, as to WHY I’m such a mess all of a sudden.

So no, you aren’t alone. I hope you are able to find some peace and happiness and relief soon, just as I am for myself 🙂 ((((hugs))))

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think lots of people can have feelings like yours and I’ve definitely been one of them. There’s lots of reasons for us feeling a bit down or sad and they’re all unique to our lives and situations. But something someone once pointed out to me could be useful. Change is hard, even if it’s change in an awesome way. Building a house and changing jobs are each very emotional and likely stressful things and they can take their toll as you adjust.

For me, I met my FI, moved out of home, then moved interstate, then got my first full time job then bought a house, in the space of about 2 years. All wonderful joyful things, but as my friend counselled, they’re still intense and can time some time to adjust to.

Give yourself some time to settle into yourself, take care of yourself and make sure you use any support networks you have, whether it’s someone to talk to or just a fun day out with the girls. I think a PP’s suggestion to check things out medically is a good idea. It’s good to just be able to desregard that as a potential issue and achieve some peace of mind.

You’re never alone and if nothing else, you’ve a whole bunch of lovely ladies on here ready to help in any way we can 🙂 Hugs to you.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sometimes it is your body and not something in your life that can make you depressed. How much sunlight do you get? A lack of vitamin D can cause depression like symptoms. Thyroid problems and other hormonal disorders can also cause depression like symptoms. SADS is also a likely suspect and affects a lot of people who don;t even realise.

My cousin had a hormonal imbalance (of the female variety) and because the doctor just wrote it off as depression it went untreated and she ended up in a catatonic state. She ended up in the psychiatric unit of the local hospital and they ran all the usual tests and couldn”t figure it out until an intern said to run her estrogen levels.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Mrs. Mustang:  I can relate. I think it’s pretty normal to not always feel happy – like who does?? From about October onwards I’m way more depressed (probably SAD)… stuck indoors all winter… it really sucks. I also despise mornings.

I’m also a really anxious person so that doesn’t help things.

I am pretty sure I don’t have depression…. I chalk it up to the winter blues so I take vitamin D, sometimes use my sun lamp thing, look forward to vactions (just got back from one and am super bummed out this morning), try to exercise, etc.

I think if you feel like this for 2 weeks straight, you’re supposed to see a doctor since that could be a sign of proper clinical depression.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I also have those ups and downs for no reason… Today I’ve also been feeling like how you do, and that puts me in a grumpy mood. It happens to me once in a week more or less. I went to a psychiatrist a few days ago to talk about it, and he told me that I make myself sad and I try to find reasons to be sad for no reason. He said it’s normal that no one can be happy all the time so I should stop worrying and  thinking about it so much, because this would make me feel worse. It helps a little to know there are others like me, though. 🙂

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