Bees in waiting- what I wish I would have known

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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137 posts
Blushing bee

I SO needed to hear this today (control freak here also in fact my story is so like yours!!) 

I know it’s happening this year and I can not relax and enjoy this time I’m so IMPATIENT!! 

So thanks for bringing me back down to earth and making me super excited again! 

Post # 3
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124 posts
Blushing bee

 

futuremrsrossol:  Much like Brownbear23: I, too, am so glad to have read this! My SO and I have been together for several months, and when he told me that he would put a ring on my finger by 04April, I was super worried and excited and everything all at once. 04April came and went with no ring – and now I am simply bugging out of my mind wondering when he’s going to do it, if he’s going to do it, etc etc etc…   Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. 🙂 

Post # 4
Hostess
9907 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

futuremrsrossol:  I agree with you completely.  I wish I could have told myself this 2 years ago.  FH and I have now been together for 9.5 years, we got engaged just over a year ago – my 30th birthday.  I ruined so many amazing events for myself because I was so focused on how I wish he was proposing in that moment. 

Enjoy your life as it is, trust your man, don’t pressure him, it doesn’t make it better. 

Post # 6
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598 posts
Busy bee

This was a great post. I can almost entirely relate. I just moved in with my boyfriend of 7 years and as soon as we moved in I started to obssess about getting engaged. I would ask him “when, how much longer?” and it really got to the point where I was also feeling resentment about it. It was starting to really bring on problems in our relationship. Along with people who knew nothing about our relationship trying to tell me “7 years is long enough, he should have proposed by now, they would never be with someone for 7 years without a ring etc….”   I knew from the beginning of our relationship we were going to get married and when he tells me we will get married I believe him. I don’t want to feel like I forced him to propose. If he wants to marry me, he will propose. I have stopped letting “waiting” affect our relationship negatively and by doing so we have gotten even closer!

Post # 7
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

futuremrsrossol:  I’m a control freak myself and currently waiting. However, we are looking at rings tomorrow and I do have a timeline. The thing is, we know when we are planning to get married, he just hasn’t proposed yet! 

Post # 9
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

futuremrsrossol:  so he has a ring now!!! And he says he has a proposal plan that involves warmer weather but that it won’t be more than a couple months!

Post # 12
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

futuremrsrossol

My SO and I have been together 7 and a half years and I have considered myself officially waiting for about 2 of those years.. as much as I really want to take your advice I know deep down I won’t, especially now that I know my SO has spoken to a jeweller around 5-6 weeks ago about making me a custom e-ring (my mum let it slip), at the moment as much as I HATE HATE HATE it, I eat sleep and breathe engagement… The only thing I can really do it try my hardest to drive only myself crazy with it and shut up about it to everyone else. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  Brickette.
Post # 14
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Newbee

futuremrsrossol:  Thank you! Glad I’m reading this! Me and my SO has been dating for almost 8 years and a half. Now we both are turning 28 soon, I started to get a little bit anxious due to my age (family pressure too). I think he is very comfortable at where we are right now and keep saying he wants to make more money. But I just can’t wait, but on the other hand, I don’t want to give him any pressure or force him to marry me. However, he did give me some hints lately like: “Oh, we should go ring shopping” or “I’m saving money for the box”. So yea……. we will see…… I guess let the waiting game begins.

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