Bees – is this a thing now? Matching wedding party AND guests?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4638 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ebarnes0:  While I couldn’t imagine actually going through with it.. I’d LOVE to see all my guests dressed in black and or white. Again, not going through with it because its awfully bossy.

Post # 4
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i’d be so annoyed as a guest – it’s pretty obnoxious to ask people to wear something so particular, they’re adults, let them dress themselves!

Post # 5
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It would be cool to see. I’d just never have the nerve to say, “wear ____ to my wedding” to all of my guests. Though if someone told me to wear something specific I really wouldn’t be offended.

Post # 7
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@ebarnes0:  …yeah…NO

I refuse to become a living decoration at someone’s wedding…that’s what centerpieces and backdrops are for.

Post # 8
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think many things in the wedding industry start out with the very wealthy or those in the entertainment business and then filter down to us plebeians.

Brides who want to “outdo” their friends and family are constantly searching for a new way to do so. Those brides will always find something.It’s up to their guests to give the a reality check.

Post # 9
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

It would be cool, but I’d never demand my guests to do that. I wouldn’t mind if I was asked to do it as a guest as long as it wasn’t something ridiculous. 

Post # 10
2798 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Black and white events are one thing, most people have one or the other in their closet. 

I do love how the whole post is about this, but she has no examples of the brides who asked for the matching colors in photos.  The only photos she showed were of the ones where things seemed pretty normal. 

Post # 11
1022 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’s weird no matter what. I get general like formal/casual/cocktail whatever. Don’t ask me to wear a certain style (all females in dresses) or colour. I think that is insane!

This whole guests matching the wedding business is bizarre. Where I’m from most people make an effort NOT to dress in the wedding colours becuase no one wants to look like they are in the bridal party. Which didn’t stop my guests from wearing red (ugh).

Post # 12
1028 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We told people what our wedding colors are (cream, slate grey and cranberry) and they are more than welcome to wear 1 color or a combo of all three. The only thing we are seriously requesting is no all black. This is a celebration, not a funeral so dress accordingly.

Post # 13
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ebarnes0:  That is a little crazy…I have been to a wedding were we were asked to wear boas and masks but the bride had a set up table where you could pick up both items 🙂 

Post # 14
8389 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Being told how to dress as an adult is just weird.  I can understand if it’s related to a celebration (i.e. halloween costumes, christmas sweaters, 80’s theme), but actually being told to wear a specific color for no particular reason seems odd.

Post # 15
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve heard of it before and still think it’s weird.  Unless it’s a theme wedding, then it’s more like a costume party (like I’ve been to black and white parties, time period theme, holiday, etc).

If it was something else I’d be annoyed and depending on how hard it was to find a dress that color I could afford I might not attend.  Weddings, while I love them, are already a pain.  Travel, taking time off work, gifts….again I love weddings but they take time and money.  You shouldn’t make it more difficult for your guests.

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