Post # 1
If so, do you feel like your relationship with his mother is strained because of it?
My bf is an only child and I feel that his mother is still attached by the umbilical cord. She is more clingy and emotionally manipulative than not, and really does not like me because she feels that I am breaking up their family by starting one of our own (by her own admission!).
Post # 3
FI is not, but I am! I do think my mama is more clingy than some, but it definitely helps that we live 1000+ miles away. It also helped a lot when she got a puppy, lol.
Post # 4
Interesting, I never really thought about this. FI is an only child, however his mother passed away before we started dating.
ETA: I voted “Other”.
Post # 5
My FI is an only child and I think that, for us, it makes my relationship with his mother even better. Since she never had a daughter, she is super excited to be able to do girl things with me like shop or get our nails done. She’s wicked smart (cancer drug researcher) but definitely enjoys her girl time. She has been nothing but welcoming to me and my parents. FI was never super clingy with her, though, so my appearance didn’t cause any drama.
Note: I’m an only child, too, and my parents are super excited to have FI in the family.
Post # 6
FI is an only child, but is not really close to either of his parents. If anything, him being an only child impacts us because he was raised a spoiled brat 😛 In all seriousness though, it doesn’t really make a difference. I’m way closer to my parents and I’m the youngest.
Post # 7
@busybee3791: My FI is not an only child– he has a brother– but I am. My FI’s and my mother’s relationship is strained, but there are things other than him taking away her “little girl” that make it difficult.
I do think that being an only child makes for challenging parent-child relationships– all the parents’ expectations fall on the only child, which can (and in my experience most certainly DOES) cause issues. Including the (adult) only child’s parents having problems accepting the adult child’s partner, since that person has “taken away their baby.” $%#@#Y^&^%$#!!!!!! Garumph. Can you tell I find this dynamic irksome!!!??? I sympathize if you are having issues!
Post # 8
FI is the oldest of 4. FMIL is a wonderful lady, if a bit more clingy than I’m used to parents being. She isn’t shy about telling us we don’t visit often enough. But honestly, she doesn’t cause any actual issues. She’s been nothing but welcoming to me, and hasn’t given me any indications that she resents my presence. She’s just as kind to FI’s siblings’ significant others.
The funny thing is that I’m an only child, and my parents aren’t clingy at all! Once I started college they were like “be free, my child!” They’re THRILLED to welcome FI to the family. They wuv him.
Post # 9
@busybee3791: FI is an only child, and my relationship with his mom is just fine. She’s awesome, and calls me her ‘angel’ (which makes me laugh).
Post # 10
DH is not an only child, but has a very… Doting… Mother (who I suspect does not actually like me, but is THRILLED at the prospect of a grandchild!)
Post # 11
I said ‘other’ – my husband has a half sister, so he’s an only child in his mom’s family but not in his dad’s. It has been a little problematic at times in the past as there’s no one to share his mom’s craziness with… His mom would like them to be closer while my husband is happy to be quite separate, which is what causes more issues, so I’d say my relationship is less strained as I make a bit more of an effort than he does and she’s aware.
Post # 12
@Creiddylad: Ah yes, the “taking the baby away”. That is the actual worst.
Post # 13
I have not had good experiences with dating only children – they were very very needy. But I don’t think it’s necessarily always the case.