Hey, I’m not married to a police officer, but my SO is a fireman who used the PD as a stepping stone for the FD. He was in it for 5 years, and his dad retired as a SGT for another department in our same city. I have also dated another cop before him, have 3 family members who are cops, and as someone who is also interested in law enforcement I have been around that crowd for a while now.
It is a good job, but like Mrs. Pinecone said, it is taxing at times. They see some horrible things and over time they form skewed perceptions of people and the world. It can get hard to deal internally with some of the things they deal with on a daily basis, so they have to have a way to let it go, and not bring it home. Some can be very cinical, some become controlling, some become aggressive, angry, etc..
Keep in mind that generally, people who are attracted to that kind of job are type-A, dominant people. Also, there is a high alcohol and divorce rate.
HOWEVER, like I said before, it is a good job, and if your SO doesn’t let it get to him, it can be very rewarding.
My advice to you is to be patient while he’s in the academy and during his probationary year. That will be his toughest time because he’s learning everything and the academy demands a lot. TALK about EVERYTHING. Allow him to vent his frustrations, support him, and remind him that you are there for him. I can’t stress talking enough. Here in our city, counceling (marriage and personal) are offered free to PD. Also, if you can, make friends with other wives/gf’s and form a support group. Be understanding of his time requirements. In the first few years, there won’t be a lot of options for him as far as requesting days off. You get what you get. You won’t have him around for a few holidays, but don’t blame him, just support him. You kind of have to go out of your way in the first few years to accomidate his schedule, but trust me, it’s worth it.
I hope that helped. I use to know of a forum that was for PD wives, if I can find it I will link you. 🙂