- 3 years ago
@CollegeBee3: I’m having a back-up dress, but not a proper reception dress. My reasons are:
1) My dress is very heavy, with a long train. Yes, I could have got a lighter one, but none of the lighter ones felt ‘special’ enough; and I wanted my dress to feel different to things I would usually wear.
2) Our wedding will be long. I’ll be getting into my dress at around 11.30am for pre-ceremony photos, and our evening reception will end at late as 3am. Not having worn something like that before, I have no idea how it will feel after 12 hours of wear, so would like something comfy to change into that isn’t my PJs lol
I won’t make a big thing of it, and will only wear it if my dress gets to uncomfortable. It only cost $180 so hardly broke the bank, and I’ll be bringing it on honeymoon for a honeymoon photo shoot.
I voted ‘no’ in your poll as your mum is paying for your dress, and clearly feels verys trongly that you wear it all day; so, unless your reception is going to be very long, like ours, I don’t really see a reason to upset her, and would just pick one beautiful dress to wear all day.
@CollegeBee3: Normally I’m in the camp of “You’re an adult, it’s your wedding day, do what YOU and your FI want” BUT in this situation I’m siding with your mother. If YOU were the one paying $2K for a dress would you change out of it so quickly?
I’m not against receptions dresses, I really like a lot of them. I personally wouldn’t do one because I’d want to cherish my wedding dress as long as I could!
I think letting your mom buy a $2,000 dress for you to only wear for a couple hours comes off a little ungrateful (whether you intend to or not).
Very good points ladies. I planned on professional photos/first look photos before the ceremony, obviously during the ceremony and just changing into a reception dress.
My wedding dress will have a bustle (i believe that is the term), so dancing and walking should be more manageable.
I will just stick to my wedding dress then 🙂
Wait and see what kind of a dress you buy!
I bought a 53 pound ballgown, and my Mom definitely said I NEEDED a reception dress!
But if you wind up with a super-light all-lace mermaid dress, you probably won’t need one!
It really depends on what your wedding dress is like. If it’s heavy, or a very tight mermaid, you’rre going to find it hard to dance in so a reception dress is a practical option.
I had a reception dress because, even though my ceremony dress was lightweight, I was worried about tripping over in it. Turns out I was right, as it was too long at the front, and not bustled, and I definitely would have tripped if I’d tried dancing in it.
But I think if you do get one, maybe try and keep it until towards the end of the night – basically just for dancing – so you can get as much wear out of your main dress as possible.
My wedding dress was actually very comfortable, but I wanted a short dress to change into at the reception so I could enjoy dancing the night away. I shopped around at some malls and online, but ended up buying my reception dress for under $50 from Marshalls. I wasn’t sure if I would change at the beginning of the reception before the special dances/toasts or later on in the evening. I ended up changing right after the special dances/toasts were over, when all the obligations were done and it was time to party. This worked out really well because I was still in my dress for the special events, but the photographers got plenty of pics in my short dress also, and I stayed comfortable and cool the whole night. Everyone still noticed the reception dress and complimented it and what a good idea it was to change to stay comfortable.
Maybe your mom would be okay with the reception dress if you waited to change later in the reception? If on the wedding day, you decide you just can’t take your wedding dress off like your mom suggested, you could just keep the tags on the reception dress and return it!
@CollegeBee3: Most wedding ceremonies are really short – almost all the ones I’ve attended were 10-15 minutes long. Most of the time your guests will see you will be at the reception, so I don’t really see why buy a super expensive dress to wear for such a short period of time. I put my dress on at 10 AM, and I didnt’ take it off until midnight, and I loved every second of it – it was such a gorgeous gown, and it’s not everyday that you get to wear a floor-length white gown! I think you should listen to your momma, sounds like she would be really offended if you only wore her expensive dress for part of the day.
I agree with a PP…I don’t get having 2 dresses. I’d rather take the $2,000 and put it towards the wedding, honeymoon, or in savings for a down payment on house. I’m spending money on a wedding dress…Damned if I’m getting my ass out of that dress all night long. I’m flaunting it and showing it off all night.
Spend the extra money and get something you’ll be comfortable in to wear all day/night long.
I had a reception dress. My ceremony dress weighed as much as a small child, had a huge train, and my wedding was on the hottest day of the year. Changing after the photos into a floor length, light, silk dress felt incredible. I would have DIED if I’d tried to wear my original dress all night.
EDIT: Reception dresses don’t have to be expensive. Mine was £60 off ebay.
I always considered myself to be a one dress gal esp. since mine was a gift from my parents. So I’d say that if they’re paying you should try to go with their wishes, after all 2k is a lot to drop on a dress.
That being said I recently find that I’ve become a two dress gal because we’re having a very small wedding and reception (dress #1 the gift dress) and then a few days later a very casual and fun larger party (dress #2). Dress #1 wouldn’t fit the tone of the party, but dress #2 is completely at my expense.
Yes, I wanted a reception dress for functionality.
thanks for all of the input. My mother did not deem the proposal of a second dress as a slap in the face, she just has very traditional views on weddings and thinks I will want to be in my wedding dress for the whole special event and day.
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