(Closed) Bees not having fsil(s) as bridesmaids? How are you/did you honor them?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Well, my Future Sister-In-Law isn’t in the wedding party, but she is doing a reading.  If that’s not an option for you, do you think you could include them in the speeches in a special way?  Either by recognizing them yourselves or by giving them an opportunity to speak/make a toast?  Or maybe you could put up a framed pic on a table somewhere of Fiance and his sisters (possibly alongside other framed pictures of you and Fiance and family so it doesn’t look out of place)?

Post # 4
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Future Sister-In-Law is the mom of our flower girl, who will only be 18 months at the wedding – so she is going to walk down the aisle with her.

Post # 5
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Could you have them (or 1 of them) walk him down the aisle? That’s what we came up with, in addition to having her do a reading. We also gave her a corsage.

Post # 6
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Could you just include them in the processional? We didn’t include my SIL (DH’s brothers wife) in our ceremony since I didn’t feel the need to but I did have my aunt and uncle walk in the processional. They’re a HUGE part of my life and I wanted to honor them in some way. I think they appreciated being involved and they got their moment in the spotlight. 

Post # 7
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Seat them by the bar.

Post # 8
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

This is actually one of my concerns…. but… he has 5 sisters… so i couldnt have just one so none could be in it…. I am trying to figure out how to make something special for them…. ahhhh 

Post # 9
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We didn’t have my brothers or his sisters stand up, but we included all the kids in some way.

Post # 10
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

My Fiance has 2 sisters and I am not having eithor of them as bridesmaids, instead I asked them what else they would like to do.  His youngest sister really wanted to be an usher and the other one wanted to read out a prayer.  Even though you are not having readings could they do a prayer or poem or something?

Post # 11
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think that’s really sweet you want to do something for your future sisters in law.  🙂

Post # 12
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If there’s going to be a guestbook, maybe they could be in charge of making sure folks sign that? Alternatively, depending on how your reception is planned, if there’s a space for toasts and such, when you’re thanking people, give them some special words to let them know how much their enthusiastic support meant to you during the planning process, and how delighted you are to have them as sisters. (Or something like that!)

Post # 13
7420 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Its great that you want to incorporate them. We aren’t doing anything and simply don’t see the need to.

Post # 14
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My SIL also did a reading, but we also had her be a witness.  I’ve never been to a US wedding but here the signing of the certificate is very much on display and a big photo-taking oportunity.  She helped out a lot with the wedding and because our wedding was so small it would have seemed like we left her out if we didn’t include her in some way.

It is obviously trikier with more FSILs… hmmm…  I do like the corsage idea though.  Apprently here its mostly just for the fathers and other important men who get one, but my Mother-In-Law requested one, and so we got my mom one too so she wouldn’t be left out.

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