Post # 1
My Fiance has 3 sisters, they are not bridesmaids, I have a small wedding party. But they have been so excited and supportive of us, I really want to honor them somehow. We are not doing readings at our ceremony.
Post # 3
Well, my Future Sister-In-Law isn’t in the wedding party, but she is doing a reading. If that’s not an option for you, do you think you could include them in the speeches in a special way? Either by recognizing them yourselves or by giving them an opportunity to speak/make a toast? Or maybe you could put up a framed pic on a table somewhere of Fiance and his sisters (possibly alongside other framed pictures of you and Fiance and family so it doesn’t look out of place)?
Post # 4
Future Sister-In-Law is the mom of our flower girl, who will only be 18 months at the wedding – so she is going to walk down the aisle with her.
Post # 5
Could you have them (or 1 of them) walk him down the aisle? That’s what we came up with, in addition to having her do a reading. We also gave her a corsage.
Post # 6
Could you just include them in the processional? We didn’t include my SIL (DH’s brothers wife) in our ceremony since I didn’t feel the need to but I did have my aunt and uncle walk in the processional. They’re a HUGE part of my life and I wanted to honor them in some way. I think they appreciated being involved and they got their moment in the spotlight.
Post # 8
This is actually one of my concerns…. but… he has 5 sisters… so i couldnt have just one so none could be in it…. I am trying to figure out how to make something special for them…. ahhhh
Post # 9
We didn’t have my brothers or his sisters stand up, but we included all the kids in some way.
Post # 10
My Fiance has 2 sisters and I am not having eithor of them as bridesmaids, instead I asked them what else they would like to do. His youngest sister really wanted to be an usher and the other one wanted to read out a prayer. Even though you are not having readings could they do a prayer or poem or something?
Post # 11
I think that’s really sweet you want to do something for your future sisters in law. 🙂
Post # 12
If there’s going to be a guestbook, maybe they could be in charge of making sure folks sign that? Alternatively, depending on how your reception is planned, if there’s a space for toasts and such, when you’re thanking people, give them some special words to let them know how much their enthusiastic support meant to you during the planning process, and how delighted you are to have them as sisters. (Or something like that!)
Post # 13
Its great that you want to incorporate them. We aren’t doing anything and simply don’t see the need to.
Post # 14
My SIL also did a reading, but we also had her be a witness. I’ve never been to a US wedding but here the signing of the certificate is very much on display and a big photo-taking oportunity. She helped out a lot with the wedding and because our wedding was so small it would have seemed like we left her out if we didn’t include her in some way.
It is obviously trikier with more FSILs… hmmm… I do like the corsage idea though. Apprently here its mostly just for the fathers and other important men who get one, but my Mother-In-Law requested one, and so we got my mom one too so she wouldn’t be left out.