Bees of African American toddlers-HELP!

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I recommend getting Curly Girl: The Handbook by Lorraine Massay, with Michele Bender. It has a section on caring for a child’s curly hair. I think this book would provide a lot of help. It has lots of neat tips and tricks for all kinds of curly hair, and has great information in it. 

Since she’s so young, I don’t think you should worry too much about the length of her hair. Instead, focus on making sure it’s healthy. To make sure her hair isn’t being damaged, avoid tying her hair too tightly, because it can lead to hair loss, and make sure it’s moisturized. Also, make sure she’s getting proper nutrition.

Children grow hair at different paces. Making sure it’s healthy, hydrated, and not being pulled out is most important. If you can, use sulfate-free products and botanical conditioners. 

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Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Not trying to be a smarty pants but what do you define as a ‘pretty good grade of hair’?

I hope you mean, healthy as opposed to the fact that it is ‘soft’ and ‘curly’.  If that  is the case, then I find that description annoying and insulting.

And yes, I realize I may get flagged for this.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Oops, I meant to type ‘Lorraine Massey’. The hair loss I am referring to when I mentioned tying her hair too tightly is called traction alopecia, by the way. 

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Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

karmalkween:  I’m of no help on this topic but I need to gush over HOW CUTE her hair is! The little ponytails and bows are so adorable!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Butterfly6:  I see the point you are making, and I rather agree, but that was not helpful at all. 

OP, there really is no “good” grade of hair or “poor” grade of hair. There are simply different types of hair, and healthy/undamaged and unhealthy/damaged hair. Some hair requires more, or a different kind of care, and may be more difficult to work with, but that doesn’t mean it’s a lower “grade” of hair.

I’m sure you didn’t mean what you said in a negative way; you were just describing her hair. I’m also sure you’re aware of everything that I wrote in the above paragraph, but I thought I should write it anyway. 

By the way, I recommend Deva Curl and Deva Care hair products. That’s what I use most of the time, and they work great on my curls. If you go to MyDevaCurl.com you’ll get to see the products as well as videos. The videos will show you just how well the products the work and how they’re used. I highly recommend them. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I would like to preface this comment by saying I dont have children but I do have a bunch of nieces and cousins who I helped to care for/babysat. I wouldnt (and parents around me) would put their daughter hair in styles like this so early. A little clip here and there yes! but pony tails and sorts when her hair is so fragile was and is a no no in my family (we’re originally from the caribbean). Im not sure when you started combing her hair like this but we wouldnt until babies had a full head of hair.

Sorry I dont have any suggestions for moving forward!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

People clown Beyonce and Jay-Z for not coming their daughter’s hair, but that little girls all-out curls is a very healthy way to wear hair. I did not have a lot of hair until I was about three. At three my hair grew and grew. At the most I had two pig tails, but more often than not my hair was out and maybe with an elastic headband.

Post # 12
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Wannabee

Daily scalp massages with Jamaican Black Castor oil will help to thicken her hair & encourage growth. I also second the comments about not putting her hair into so many pig tales, low manipulation is key. Most kinky curly hair is very thin & needs to be handled as delicately as possible (for example: when you comb her hair, use only a wide tooth comb). I would recommend checking out curlynikki.com, there’s a section on that website for curly kids & the blogger also has a great book out called “More Than Good Hair” that is a great resource. Also, if you’re not already, get a hair bonnet for her to wear at night or satin pillow cases if she won’t keep the bonnet on.

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