Post # 1
I’m slightly confused… 🙂 Please explain!
I’ve seen several bees on here who are still “waiting” but that have dates by their usernames on their posts…
Aren’t those dates the supposed wedding dates? And if so, does that mean the waiting bees have set a date even before engagement?
I’ve been seeing this for awhile, but never asked until now.
Help, please 🙂
Post # 3
I think that in order to have a profile the wedding date is required. I gues girls just have to put a date there in order to save their profile even if they don’t have one.
Post # 4
If a waiting bee does have a date but are still waiting then yes they are planning the wedding before the official proposal!
I was a bee in this situation – my FI and I decided to start planning our wedding – venue, photog etc. before we were “officially” engaged.
Post # 5
I just noticed some bees have dates and others don’t so I just thought I’d ask.
I know when I was waiting I was a nervous wreck enough, there was no way I was going to give myself a set date LOL.
Post # 6
@MissAsB – nope you can leave it blank if you want to!
I think it is that they’ve already picked a date before their engagement meaning they are planning while waiting 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks for the responses!
Post # 8
Weird, I thought it was required because it has the little stars next to it that say required! I think you can also have your engagement date as the date next to your name too.
Post # 9
it could be both – i know there are definitely some bees out there who have set dates and made plans and are still waiting for the formal engagement. but i do actually think it’s also a new requirement to sign up on the site. when i registered i wasn’t required to fill in a date.
Post # 10
Huh I never noticed that, good point- well maybe it’s the “ideal” date?
Post # 11
A lot of ppl do set their date before they get the ring. I knew the approximate season before I was engaged so I just put “winter 2011” 🙂
Post # 12
is that a new requirement? i didn’t have to put in a date when i signed up so i kept it blank. some people have set a date before the official engagement and if it’s new, i guess you have to put in something.
Post # 13
I’m a bee in waiting and I have a date set. My boyfriend and I knew we’d be getting married sometime in the next few years and then the more weddings we attended the more we talked about it. We already knew we didn’t have many options because he works for Major League Baseball so he can’t take off much time during the baseball season.
Our venue is the Mets ballpark, Citi field. It just opened in 2009 so we were looking into taking a tour and in the process found out they don’t do tours unless you’re booking some sort of event there(we had no idea they hosted non-baseball events). We pretended we were already engaged and wanted to get married there so we could take the tour. Long story short, we fell in love with the place. The reception will be in a club that we normally wouldn’t have access to unless we spent some serious dough on tickets for a game, so the tour was our first time seeing it despite having gone to 20-something games through the season.
One night during a heated discussion about the good and bad of Citi field we started talking about this giant 42 they have in the rotunda when you first walk in. The rotunda is named after Jackie Robinson and 42 was his number, but a lot of Mets fans think that it should be more Mets related and are annoyed by this giant # 42 sculpture. As a joke I said we should get married on April 2nd and take pictures next to it so we make the number 11 and we could give the sculpture a whole new meaning to us. Well we looked up the date and it just so happened to be a Saturday in 2011. We both joked how awesome that would be but then ended the conversation. About 10 min later we both turned to each other and said “um did we just pick a wedding date” LOL.
Long story, well long… what started out as a joke just stuck.
Post # 14
@ MissDoodles – That is a really cool way to incorporate an otherwise irritating backdrop into your wedding!
Great story and very creative 🙂 I’m glad he was on board with you about it!
Post # 15
We have a date, and have been planning (even have deposit on venue, my dress, etc) but still no official proposal! He wants to do a whole proposal with a ring, but just hasn’t been able to afford it yet! So, Yes, we do have a date, but no proposal yet 🙂
Post # 16
My understanding is that some waiting bees have a set date but just don’t have the ring and so they are considered “waiting” by wedding industry standards (but not how they’ll define themselves). I’m waiting, but know I’ll be engaged soon and we both agree we’d like to get married on New Year’s Eve (of 2010 or 2011… not sure yet, depends on cost). Not a specific date, but you get the point.