Post # 1
i need encouragement. my groom to be doesn’t help the situation. he groans and walks out the room when i bring it. i feel like the middle man between his parents and mine. my parents are paying for a good chunk of the wedding. his are paying for the invitations. i sent the final list to my future in-laws on thursday of last week. then on saturday, my mother calls to tell me she forgot to add a few people to the list. i told her no, because the invitations are already being made. you think i started war! she and my father blew up at me. saying what is a few more invitations, if FI’s parents get upset tell them we will pay for the extras to be made. i asked who did you forget to invite. then they said ” 2 of your grandmothers friends. a friend of the family and the mayor of your hometown (he is a family friend, but i haven’t heard a word spoken of him in years.) i said that they wont my friends they were your friends. my mom got upset with me and hung up. we haven’t talked sense. i don’t know what to do. i am a mess, i hate not talking to my mom.
should i stand my ground or should i just give in and invite them?
Post # 3
my mother and i got into it over rehearsal dinner – it was supposed to be just my family, his family and the wedding party. she invited her sisters and brothers (my aunts and uncles) i was really embarrassed since DH’s didnt invite any extended family and they were paying for it. my mom ended up calling them and telling them they couldnt come – it was a no win situation – i would have felt terrible if they showed up and DH’s family had to pay for them, but then again i felt terrible that my mother had to call and tell them no. my advice – a few more people wont hurt, if it makes your mother happy then so be it better now when inviations are being made then after they have been made ya know?
Post # 4
Honestly – you will be so busy socializing and entertaining you probably wont even notice they are there – and if your parents are willing to pay for food and drink for them – i dont think its alot to ask of FI’s family to print a couple extra invitations.
there were several people at my wedding that i didnt even speak too! complete embarrassment but there was just not enought time to make it to everyone. i tried!