Weddingbee boards

How do you feel about bee's sharing information about you or restating things you have said on the boards? Does it make you feel good to have been noticed and heard or do you not appreciate your words/thoughts/photos being taken out of context and used by someone else? I have had a bee restate things that I have said in a thread previously and was uncomfortable that they were seeming to use that information against me. I've also seen personal photos being copied and pasted onto other threads by different bees.

Is this part of why you may not share photos or censor yourself more because this could happen? Do you mind if a bee uses your photos as inspiration or to show other bees?

Obviously if they were talking trash about me I wouldn't like it. But if they said something like "oh go look at twist's blah blah"  or "oh, twist had a photo of what i think you're looking for, I'll go find it and post it" then i wouldn't care and I might even be flatter. However, I don't think it's ever happened to me so I haven't really thought about it much more than this paragraph.

I don't mind if someone quotes me within the same thread that I commented in. But if they copied and pasted something of mine from another thread, I wouldn't be happy about it. I post in the threads I want to, and I don't want my words or images placed elsewhere by someone where they may be out of context or otherwise present a skewed version of my original intentions.

IMO if you want to reference someone in another thread, link to the thread and state the comment number.

I would have a big problem with someone reposting my images without permission because that would no longer allow me to remove the image myself if I so wished.

@MrsSl82be: Ah true. I kind of forget you have to do that to post any photos here... That does freak me out a little. I know I've posted photos of myself and my spouse on here before, so even if I wanted to become more anonymous. It's already out there, not much I can do now.

I do wish wedding bee were a private board.

@hisgoosiegirl: I have had a bee say well you said x on this thread so you should not say y on this thread and it really frustrated me. I know that we end up sort of following one anothers lives but I don't feel it is right to use something we said, take it out of context and then use it against us in another.

I also don't believe that using photos a bee has posted of themselves or their personal property without their knowledge is appropriate. I think a bee should only post things like that herself or himself.

@MrsSl82be: I agree.

@mrskesslertobe: I explained to @hisgoosiegirl: sort of what I mean.

@.twist.: I wish it were as well. I like that Hellobee has a password login to be able to see the boards at all.

@MsBrooklynA: Yep. Most of the other forums I'm used to are private and I often forget how huge this website actually is because of how tight knit this community feels. It's deceiving.

@MsBrooklynA: That's a really good point, actually. I know there are lurkers on the site who look at the boards for inspiration and past advice, but you could still create a username and just not post anything if seeing the boards required a login.

@linguo42: So true. It sometimes kind of bothers me that people are purely lurking and after the whole "Snark Boards" debacle I am more apt to think people are trolls. I want people to be apart of the community but to also use the community in a positive way.

@MrsSl82be:This is part of my thing though as well. If I put a photo up for opinions sake or just to show it off I typically delete them within a few hours or a few days. If someone chooses to copy and paste them without my knowledge and then connects them back to me it defeats the purpose of my attempt at some anonymity.

@Running Elley: I'm not positive if it will be public or not. Not that I'm on there often but I do like that it's private.

I dont like it.

@MrsNeutrino: Woah, that's wierd.

For the original question, I think it depends on the context. I'm sure there are things I post between threads that are inconsistent. My mindframe changes, or I don't state clearly what I mean, or it might be relating a personal experience where the entirety of the thing isn't relevant so I streamline it.

Of course, anyone who has the time to go back and compare threads has too much of it, and I could really use their help doing [dishes/laundry/cleaning/literature reviewing].

But I think in cases of snark, pettiness shows through for what it is.

Taking someone else's image and passing it off as your own is not OK either. But there aren't many safeguards for that, and as a general rule, people often assume internet content = free for anyone's use without attribution content. 

If it's someone reposting what I said to be helpful, whatever. It's cool. Plus, a lot of advice offered is common sense, or maybe the point was helpful and they wanted to make it again in the new thread (because let's face it, there are tons of repeat posts) but couldn't/didn't want to take the time to find the source. 

Also, FWIW, I'm reasonably sure that deleting a picture from the internet where you uploaded it doesn't make it go away. If the site's not protected, the image or content can be reposted/funnelled elsewhere.