Post # 1
No No No – Mr. Unixfairy and I are still in newlywed bliss land.
But I have seen lots of engaged girls having doubts about calling off the wedding because of what it will cost.
So just to be an eye opener here – divorce cost more than weddings usually. So if you have doubts I would like to share some costs and am hoping that other bees will do the same.
For me, I was the main breadwinner in the family. I am luckly he did not ask for alimony
Legal fees for the divorce and subsequent nonsense he pulled were well over $20,000
Savings in the tune of $20,000
Material goods (cars etc) $30,000
I received $300 per month child support for two children.
My DH is paying $3000 a month in child support/alimony (no we are not millionaires)
His divorce fees were around $5000
He left the marriage with his car and clothes – everything else went to her. She could not afford the house so waited until it was in foreclosure and then quit claimed it back to him
Ex is not complying with parenting plan, he has not been able to see his children in over 18 months and has not spoken to them in over a month
We are budgeting another $10,000-$20,000 to try and get compliance or custody
So just to see – I know if you have doubts it may seem like a lot of money to lose for the wedding. But trust me the divorce is much more expensive usually
Post # 3
I think my wedding costed more. BUT you have to keep in mind when you get divorced you are paying for BOTH the wedding and the divorce. and that’s not even counting the emotional cost.
Post # 4
@unixfairy: well put. fortunately my divorces (2) were not nearly as costly. pre-nups put everything in place so there was zero discussion. non-contested divorces.
my dh’s divorce was not so easy. no children involved but she still contested everything. his ex finally settled on what my dh offered 2 years prior = 2 years of lawyers and court. bitch.
i agree, weddings are a fraction of the cost of even just a standard non-contested divorce.
Post # 5
Divorce was more because I had to buy my way out of our underwater mortgage.
Post # 6
My divorce was incredibly “cheap” compared to others because we did a no-contest and no lawyer route. We only had to pay the court and paperwork fees, which are still pretty steep. It was only possible because we did not have any major assets like a house or car, nor did we have any children.
Post # 7
FH’s divorce cost more than his wedding. He ended up with all her debts as well as the divorce costs.
Post # 8
My first marriage we just went to the court house and out to lunch for under $100.
My just recent wedding was more of a destination elopement for $7,000.
But I think that is rare to have two elopements.
My divorce cost me $23,000 – $1,200 in lawyer fees (the only out of pocket costs), $6,000 in retirement, and $16,000 to pay out my ex for his half of the house that I wanted to keep. We did not have kids.