(Closed) Bees that live with their SO/FH: How much time do you spend together?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We both work 8-5 (sometimes til 6) monday-saturday then by the time we get home its about 6 or 7. Then we make dinner, eat, let the dogs out. and by that time its around 9 or 10. we usually have an hour for us. So Sundays are our only day together.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I honestly don’t remember how much time we spent together when we first started living together.  Right now we don’t see each other Monday through Friday because I work 7am to 4pm and he works 4pm to 12am.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

We work during the day, but we spend the weekday evenings together, and the weekends (although sometimes he will go do  something with his friends and vice versa).

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

He’s up at 5:30 and out the door by 6 am.  He kisses me goodbye.  I get up at 7.  I’m home at 6 pm.  We work out and watch TV until around 9:30 when he goes to bed.

So we see each other for about 4 hours on weekdays.  More on weekends.

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

We’re together literally almost all day. The only consistent times we are “apart” is when I wake up early to go to the gym and my DH stays up late to play video games lol. We get ready together, shower together (yes almost everyday lol, it’s just faster!!), drive to work together, work together, come home together and hang out together in the evening. Sure there are days when he goes off with his friends and I go off with mine, but a huge chunk of our lives are spent side by side. It’s been like this since we moved in together 2 years ago. It seems to work for us.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

When we first started living together we both worked crappy retail jobs with no set schedule so our quality time varied. Some weeks we’d have the same days off and others we wouldn’t. The weeks that we had similar schedules, we’d pretty much spend all of our time off together. Those that we didn’t, nights were really the only time that we’d see each other. Back then, we lived in a MAJOR party house so we’d have people over pretty much constantly. Even if we were both home, there were plenty of distractions so we were rarely joined at the hip. After we moved out and got our own place (before we had a roommate) and “real jobs” with nights and weekends off, we spent all of that time together. For the last 5 years we’ve worked for the same company so we’re together even more considering we have an hour commute each way and we normally have lunch together. It’s a good thing we like each other. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We live and work together, so it’s 24/7 for us.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

FI and I spend all of our time together… with the exception of work (we are on the same schedule; wake up at the same time, typically get home at the same time) and I don’t know, dr’s appointments or when FI needs to go to the junk yard and get parts for his car, stuff like that.  Otherwise, we eat dinner together, watch tv/movies together, spend all weekend together hang out with friends together… been living together for a year and not sick of it yet, in fact we decided to get married ha 🙂  It just depends on the couple and works for you.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i would love to have your neighbors’ lives … no work and free housing… sold!

i would say we spend most of our non-work time together. we both work 9-5, he leaves about 20 minutes before me since he works a little further into the city. we meet up after work and take the train home together, make dinner and hang out. then ill go to the gym while he does boy things on his own. 

usually 1 or 2 nights a week one or both of us will do things with our own friends for a while after work.

most weekends we are together the majority of the time. even when we didnt live together, we were spending that much time together, so i dont think we are in a honeymoon phase at all… this is just us and it works!

ETA: i am taking pre-req classes for my master’s program and sometimes i  go to the library to do work, but usually we just sit together and i do it while he reads/watches tv.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We both work full-time days and we’re usually both home by 5pm. So we spend 5-pm until bedtime together every day, unless one of our has an appointment or the random night out with a friend. I like it this way 🙂

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@GroovyHippieChick:  Yep we are similar.

We see each other in the morning for about 15mins, and then we are usually both home by 6:30PM – cook & eat dinner, clean, and watch television is our typical routine; unless we have plans with friends or a happy hour.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@SouthernGirl:  I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  You’re right, what works for other couple’s doesn’t always work for other’s. 

I’ve heard of couple’s that spend 100% of their free time together; meeting up for lunch everyday, spending every evening together, etc and it works for them!  For DH and I, we just couldn’t do that.  Even though we *obviously* enjoy each other’s company and spending time together, we do enjoy an evening here and there without each other.  I will go away on weekends without him, and even trips (just went away to Vancouver to visit family for 5 days without him) and vice versa.

You and your FH will find your groove with each other and will figure out what’s an appropriate amount of time to spend together for the two of you.

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