Bees Vote. Ban Gem bashing on the bee.

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Bashing other bees for their choice in Gem stone should be against the TOS on weddingbee
    Yes : (71 votes)
    57 %
    No : (53 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t know how that would possibly enforced. One person saying, “I don’t really like moissanite” or “Diamonds are overpriced” is interpreted by someone else as “bashing.” Where’s the line between saying your personal opinion and “bashing?” If people are so insecure in their ring choice as to be so offended when someone else states their opinion that they like something else, than the interwebs are probably not the place for them… 

    The TOS prohibit harrassing or personal attacks (among other things). I don’t think anything else is needed.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2262 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2007

    Yes! I hate the gem bashing so much, it upsets me that someone looking for info or first hand experience/reviews can ask an innocent question and her her thread turn into an ugly fight. 

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Plus, there’s a million other topics that this could apply to. Cash bars, “B” lists, C-sections, abortion, etc. The Bee would be a pretty boring (and useless) place if all anyone was ever allowed to say was “I think that’s wonderful!”

    Post # 6
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @HappySky7:  i agree. 

    I don’t think its right. Whether you have a diamond, moissy, sapphire, whatever!!! Everyone has a different taste. Everyone is entitled to have the ring of their dreams no matter what the diamond. 

    I have a diamond stone and I am sick of people telling me “oh they are so over rated” “oh moissy/sapphires are better” etc, this is what i wanted! leave me a lone! loL jeez. why can’t we just support eachother, isnt that what this site is all about?!

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I seriously want to know from every single person who voted yes… WHY limit this to just gemstones?

    Post # 8
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @red_rose:  any type of bashing should be banned- you make a good point. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think it’s fine for people to say their personal opinion.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think it’s annoying and rude when people go into threads about a gem and shit on it, but it’s easier/more practical to just not respond than to police it.  If those comments didn’t get a rise out of people or spark a fight, they would just be turds in an otherwise friendly thread.

    Post # 12
    Member
    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Daizy914:  right, but my other point is… define “bashing.” What’s the difference between stating your opinion or why you dont like something and “bashing?”

    Post # 13
    Member
    2555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @HappySky7:  I haven’t really noticed any gem bashing, but I don’t click on a ton of ring related posts. Why does anyone care enough to bash….?

    Post # 14
    Member
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @red_rose:  I agree with you. I don’t know how it would be enforced and where the line would be drawn. Too messy.

    Although it is definitely annoying. A gem-bashing here and there, whatever; it’s the repeat offenders who get on my last nerve because they seem to seek out any gem thread and trash the stone, regardless of whether their input was sought.

    Post # 15
    Member
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @red_rose:  Right? 

    I mostly avoid the ring boards b/c I just don’t care about anyone’s ring but my own, but I see way worse bashing and rudeness on other topics. Right above the comment box it says ‘please aoid personal attacks and snarkiness’, but it still happens. People are going to break the rules and get away with it over worse…

    Post # 16
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @red_rose:  For me, “bashing” is putting someone down about their ring. Where I live, if a woman had a stone other than a diamond in her engagement ring they would be judged, and its not right. 

     

    Having an opinion is one thing but putting someone down and telling someone that they have a moissy bc they couldn’t afford a diamond is extremely judgemental and can be hurtful. 

     

     

     

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