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I never understand this sentiment. Most brides probably get a little nostalgic for their wedding, but being seriously lost/confused about life because you're not planning a wedding anymore seems a bit extreme. I mean, before you started planning or even thinking about weddings on a regular basis, you were a complete person with interests, dreams, goals, friends, etc. After the wedding, you'll just be that person again. I'm sure all of us have more going on in our lives than planning a wedding. 

I love wedding planning, and it's definitely my main activity outside of work right now, but it's not something that defines me or something I will miss much when I'm done. I have so many plans and projects I can't wait to have that extra free time :) 

I'll most definitely still be on WB that's for sure. I'm not a fan of the planning myself. I don't really enjoy the process - I'll never be an event planner. I can't wait to unpack our wedding gifts & put them to good use (yeah, I'm talkin' to you Kitchenaid mixer & Margaritaville blender).

I'm also looking forward to having our weekends back and just enjoying other people's weddings instead of taking notes all the time. Friends of ours are getting married a month after us and we're so excited for their wedding -- cuz we don't have to DO anything!! HAH!

I personally am thrilled that the wedding is over! 

Right now I am working on thank you cards and photo album and getting a new job.  I have plenty to do around the house since we got new furniture and wedding gifts.  And of course I still hang around Weddingbee. 

I think maybe I did it wrong.  And sometimes I worry that this means my wedding will be somehow incomplete...but I haven't been at all wrapped up in planning the wedding.  I needed a venue-I got one.  I needed photographer, caterer, rentals-got them.  And generally after only a slew of emails and a couple phone calls and one meeting.  I knew how much I wanted to spend, so I didn't even talk to people that didn't offer that.  My invitations were super simple (cheap too), and I picked them out at the first store I went to.  I think my cake was the most involved thing I did...and that's because I refused to spend a lot of money on it, but I LOVE cake and I wanted it to be delicious.  But still, it was three whole afternoons of cake shopping and tasting.  I made a lot of my decisions in a fit of inspiration--"I KNOW!  I'll arrive to the ceremony in a horse-drawn carriage!"  (Insert phone call to venue about reserving horse and carriage.)  I guess I've done a lot of looking at stuff on the internet, but most of it just serves to make me feel inadequate because I'm not doing very many projects.  I'm making my own bouquets, but they're the simplest bouquets in the history of ever, so I didn't do a practice or anything.  FI is making our centerpieces (I think....I should maybe check in with him) and otherwise, I don't know that we'll have all that much decorating.  I sometimes go weeks on end without doing anything wedding related.  I've gone over budget, and sometimes I think that if I were better at this, I would have put forth more effort to stay on track...but I really didn't know how.  I was so wedding illiterate that I didn't know you were supposed to set a deadline for RSVPs until after my invites went out.  I also had no idea what a bathroom basket was (though I did assume you were not supposed to go to the bathroom in it, as one male friend suggested).  I really do worry that my wedding will look unfinished...but I guess the upside is that I won't miss wedding planning when it's gone because it hasn't been that big a part of my life to begin with?  I don't know.  I feel like I should have more projects.  I'm 47 days out and I don't have all that much to do.  Though, now that I say that, I should probably send out the rehearsal dinner invites, and get working on the programs.   

We got engaged last March and I lost my job July 9th.  Hoestly, I don't know what I would have done without wedding planning.  A few people mentioned how it doesn't "define" you but for me, it kind of did. 

We were living with my FSIL and her husband for 8 months (July until last month), an hour from where our friends and my family are, I had no money and nothing to do.  Job hunting in my field was a joke until January (literally, there was about 5 jobs a week to apply for until recently). 

And so planning our wedding-on-a-budget became my job.  I was hunting deals, negotiating prices, developing idea, gathering DIY supplies, being the master of our budget... it was my job.  I was independently employed, running my own business and was doing something I loved!

So when our wedding is over, I will lose my "job" again and will feel kind of worthless again.  I could still get a job before the wedding but that is only 38 days away.

So to answer the question, I'm not sure what I will do after the wedding. It kind of scares me.