- 5 years ago
Okay, so to be clear – this isn’t a waiting question, this is a career question but relevant to waiting bees, I guess. So, some background: I had a walk date that lapsed with nothing happening, but we agreed on a compromise of SO going for counseling to sort out his commitment issues, and me being able to leave the relationship anytime I wanted. Most of the time, I am fine with that.
In the event that we split up, I’m not so sure what to do career-wise. I’ve wanted to work in finance in NYC for forever, which is what he does/where he is. We have similar careers, only obviously I am much more junior since I am younger. I recently interviewed for a position there, and again, this is for a dream job I’ve wanted for forever. In the event that I am lucky enough to get it, I am unsure if I should take it, because it will mean being in the same area as SO once we are broken up, and that would hurt me a whole lot. However, not taking it would mean giving up on a dream, though I would probably have great options elsewhere – the way timing works out is just that this is the first thing I interviewed for and the other interviews don’t come up until later. And in this economy I don’t know whether I’d be willing to bet on finding something later.
I’m a big believer in listening to the universe, and in the event I get this job I will probably look to it as a sign of some sort and not split with SO. Part of this whole anxiety around waiting also has to do with not knowing where I’m going to live – in what city, in what country, etc., and I think having a job will take away a big part of the anxiety around waiting (though I don’t know if I’m waiting per se since my walk date has lapsed).
If he and I work out and I get this job, things will be perfect.
If he and I work out and I don’t get it, that’s okay because I will find something else.
But what if he and I don’t work out and I get it? Would you bees take it, or not? Also, would you see it as a sign of some sort, or am I just stereotypical Asian person who believes in such things? I’d appreciate any insights, and again, since this isn’t really about waiting, would appreciate responses that focused on the career aspect of things. Thanks!