Post # 1
What is your reason for not doing a bouquet or garter toss?
I REALLY do not want to do either of these, but I have some family members who are seriously crazy about these traditions, apparently. I’ve never enjoyed a bouquet toss at weddings, and I’m not wearing a garter (although I haven’t broken that news to my family yet) so we’re definitely not doing a garter toss.
We are having a very small wedding and reception and the only single guests will be children, pretty much.
Saying “I just don’t want to do it” is not working for me, so what are your reasons for skipping the bouquet/garter toss?
Post # 3
Basically there was hardly anyone there to catch either. The only single people there was my husbands parents who was divorced for years (but on great terms mind you.) & Then two other people who are engaged to each other, then well my sister who was 15 at the time & flower girls. So, we just didn’t. We had a small wedding of about 20 or so people. I did wear a garter though, hubby & I just went upstairs in the Church (in the area where everyone gets ready) & he took my garter off then. It was a sweet moment we had alone. 🙂
Post # 4
not doing a garter toss because i dont like the idea of Mr. Meowerson’s head up my cooch in front of a bunch of people
not doing a bouquet toss because i feel as though it corrals girls into a moshpit of singledom.
Post # 5
We’re having a decent sized wedding (140 invited) but have both just never really liked the tradition. Personally, I don’t want to call out the single guests to come make a spectacle of themselves, because that’s how I’ve always felt with that tradition. If people are really into it, that’s great, we just don’t wish to include it in our celebration. Instead, we’ll do an anniversary dance for married couples, giving my bouquet to the couple married longest (probably one of our grandparents).
Post # 6
I am doin the bouquet toss but not the garter toss…i think its tacky for my Fiance frens to catch a pc of my undie(lol) If u dont wanna do it sweetheart dont go frustrating urself with the pushiness of family U MAKE UR DECISION..say hear the scence hush..(a lil trini tlk for u lol) Good luck chica.
Post # 7
I think it’s a shallow tradition, and would rather not waste my reception time with something that has made me feel annoyed at weddings for years. I guess it’s not so much that I HATE that tradition, I just like others more and would rather focus on them. For instance, we are inviting all the married couples onto the dance floor during that time. We will have a dance, and as the song progresses the D.J. will ask the couples who’ve been married less then 5 years to step off. Next is 10, 15, 20, etc. Finally, the couple who has been married the longest will be presented with my boquet. I think it’s special and unique. You could always tell your family you want to be different. Your guests will really remember that!
Post # 8
@SadieBee: I totally agree… I don’t want to make a spectacle of my single friends, either. Also, at one of my best friends’ wedding last year, none of the guys even wanted to get up for the garter toss… and after they were DRAGGED on the dance floor to do it, none of them actually caught it. They just let it fall to the floor and awarded it to the guy standing closest.. AWFUL! LoL. Meanwhile, the girls were clawing for the bouquet. Ugh. Not doing it.
Post # 9
We’re not doing them, and I think you really need to stick to your guns. A simple “I just don’t want to” WILL suffice, especially if you make it clear it really isn’t something you want.
Post # 10
I dont like the tradition. what happens if my sister and her cousin catch each. that could just bring some AWKWARD moments ahead. we came up with a twist for ours! we are making a bouquet out of flowers made with one dollar bills, and a garter made out of one dollar bills. we are going to have all the guys and gals to come up and catch each one respectively, just like the regular toss. the catch is, one of them is also going to have a 20 dollar bill twisted into them. *we decided the garter cuz its easier to decide* then to bring the two that catch them together, the lady gets to choose to keep the bouquet or exchange it for the garter. one will get 20 bucks the other will get 40! kind of a spin on it and a little insentive to go up
Post # 11
Well, for me it’s that 1) I feel like it’s generally a humiliating experience for anyone who isn’t totally gung-ho, and 2) there really won’t be that many single people there, so it would be super extra awkward. Got no use for it! And frankly, there’s very little chance I’ll wear a garter, and maybe a 75% chance I’ll even have bouquet. So. Yeah.
Post # 12
We’re not doing one either, and the thing about giving reasons is that people will argue you with you. For example, if you say you don’t want Fiance going up your dress in front of strangers, they’ll say to wiggle it down lower on your leg from the beginning. SO I don’t give reasons or excuses, just say that I don’t like it!
Post # 13
1. Fiance is not comfortable with the whole garter toss concept 2. I don’t want to pay for a toss bouquet or throw mine 3. We won’t have many single guests
Post # 14
Because as a single woman I always hated the bouquet toss at others’ weddings (and actually, since I started dating my Fiance, I no longer participated, even though when we were just dating I was considered “single” by most, I didn’t consider myself single). At our wedding there will only be a handful of single girls there, and I’m sure none of them want to participate.
Also, there will be maybe 2 single guys there to catch the garter, which would just be awkward. And Fiance and I aren’t really showy/PDA about our relationship so the idea of him going up my skirt in front of everyone is just…wtf. No.
Plus, it’s two less things to buy haha! No need for a garter or a toss bouquet!
Post # 15
If you are being bombarded by “it’s tradition,” maybe you could toss the bouquet to ALL the women at the reception (not just single women) and attach like a $10 gift card to it. Same thing with garter toss–all the men at the reception–and you can avoid all the up-the-coochie production by saying–“It’s my effing day, I am going to take this toss garter off my calf, and you can suck it if you don’t like it.”
I think this is what I am going to do. Including the wording. 🙂
Post # 16
@Mrs. Meowerson:my thoughts exactly.