(Closed) bees who both you and FI work full time

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
Member
3127 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

If either of us get to stay home with our future child, it will be DH. I love working and DH loves staying at home. He is good at doing “chores” and grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, etc but I am better at cleaning. I am guessing I will stay working FT, and DH may go down to PT if finances allow.

Post # 4
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1808 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

So I don’t work full time, but DH does.  Actually I don’t have an out of the home job at all at the moment, but I just got one that starts in 2 weeks (at the moment I’ve been running my etsy shop of paper flower bouquets, so I have SOME work to do at home, but not like 8 hours a day or anything)  I often spend allll day cleaning, doing laundry, buying groceries, etc, so I know I’ll be exhausted once I start my job and can’t spend as much time doing these daily house-wife kind of tasks!

Post # 5
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21 posts
Newbee

I have a long ways to go (7-15 years) but my SO is already taking the steps so that I can be a stay at home mom! I CANT WAIT FOR IT! I am one of those people that LOVE to clean and organize things and take care of people. I’ve always made it very clear that I want to be able to do that and fortunately have found someone who wants to make that happen for me! I have very maturnal instincts.

Doesn’t it make you so good to be able to provide for other people? I love it.

Post # 7
Hostess
11178 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

My DH and I work full time plus I am a coach for a local junior high AND a local club volleyball team. Throw in my own schedule for playing volleyball and it is like a second job with weekend demaNds. I look forward to the days when I can drop the full time job and focus solely on my girls for coaching and any kids that come along. For now the ridiculous balance continues and I am thankful for a husband at not only is understanding  but helps a great deal….especially on days I don’t get home until after ten.

Post # 8
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533 posts
Busy bee

We both work fulltime. I earn a lot more than he does at the moment. Unless he seriously gets his butt into motion to move up, I won’t be stay at home. He will be. Plus the whole stay at home mum isn’t for me. No thanks! 

Post # 9
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yah I wish I could stay at home. For me, no matter how hard it would be, it would be much better than working. 

Post # 10
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2403 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We both work 40+ hour full time jobs and I am a part time, volunteer adoption counselor for a dog rescue. Neither of us will stay home when we have children. Yes, I’d love to have a day to stay home, clean, cook, etc. But I’m too ambitious to stay at home and not make money. I would also have horrible guilt at spending my fiance’s hard earned money. 

Ideally, I would work at least 50% OR work full time from home. That, or we will balance it. 

Post # 11
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2858 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can’t get anything done when my hubby is home – he’s VERY good at convincing me to just cuddle on the couch with him and watch a movie. We both work mon-fri, and the same hours, so the only time I get my cleaning done is when I send him out to the pub one day during the week after work.

Post # 12
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wish! This is why we are going to wait a long time to have kids… neither of us wants to stay home! We are both really engaged in our work and hate homemaking, but maybe it will change over time.

Post # 13
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3083 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m planning on working when I have kids. I’m a teacher so it is a decent career when you have kids. 

Post # 14
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My husband and I have been talking about this issue recently because we are planning for kids in the next few years. Currently we both work about 50 hours a week. Technically I could probably stay at home now or work part time but I would feel guilty because we do not own  house yet and we need a second car. WE have agreed though that when we have kids they will be our priority (as in we want one of us with them vs daycare/nanny). I’m very much looking forward to being a mom!

Post # 15
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3627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I do think I want to SAH when we have kids one day, but then I think I don’t…

I took the day off for my birthday a few weeks ago just because, and I was sooo bored with only Kathie Lee & Hoda and my cat to keep my company. I just get cabin fever, even when I leave the house! Anyway, we’ll see when that day comes.

Post # 16
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1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Well this is what I thought before we had our son! Now that I’m home taking care of the baby, it’s actually harder to get things done than it was before.

Honestly, I manage to get the laundry done, the dishes done and to cook, but that’s it! I have to have my mom come over once a week so I can do the other stuff like cleaning the bathrooms and other stuff.

My son is almost 10 months now… He doesn’t sleep much, and when he does, it’s not for long. When he’s awake, he requires my attention almost all of the time.

So… yeah, sorry to crush the dream…  Maybe when he’s older, it will get easier. But for now, the house looks like it used to when I worked 40h per week, except DH doesn’t have to do as much anymore (but he still does some of it).

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