Bees who didn't have RSVP cards – how to address invitations

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@chronicwhimsy:  We are handwriting the guests’ names at the top of the invitations and so are my close friends getting married this summer. I’d never heard of hiring calligraphers etc before WB so I think this is fine in the UK! I definitely think you should put the names on the actual invitation somehow because people might not look closely at the envelope. 

Post # 4
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@chronicwhimsy:  I definitely think you should write the names somewhere. Are you having a slip of paper inside with the ways to RSVP on it? Maybe you could just include a blank line at the bottom and fill in the names on each one? I would think you could just print these yourself and then handwrite the names.

I agree with Audrey as I was RSVP-ing for a wedding last night (it was a invitation postcard I’d had on my fridge like a Save the Date), and I realized I did not see if my fiance’s name was included on the envelope, which I threw away weeks ago. I hope he is invited! I RSVPed on their website and it allowed me to put two names. But I definitely would have felt better knowing one way or the other, without having to keep the envelope on hand.

Post # 5
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@chronicwhimsy:  I made my invitations in Publisher and I just did a mail merge so as to print everyone’s name on the top of each invitation. 

Post # 7
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hmm…how’s this?

Guest 1 and Guest 2,

The honor of your presence is requested…


Or very carefully label your envelope and write out specifically who is invited.  No Mr and Mrs John Smith. Rather Mr. JOHN smith and Cathy Smith. No The Smith Family, but John, Cathy, and Amber Smith.

Post # 8
25 posts

@chronicwhimsy:  we had an invite and an rsvp card (but we did online rsvps). ours werent very formal, just pretty straight to the point! i put everyones name on the outer envelope and then inside was just the invite and rsvp card. people know (we hope! lol) that when there isnt an inside envelope as well, the name on the outside is the invited party.


did that make sense? lol 

Post # 10
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@chronicwhimsy:  Most invitation templates don’t have space for a name? Really? Wow.

I don’t understand the point of an invitation without the invitees’ names. It seems very impersonal to me. Maybe it’s an Australian thing, but I don’t think I’ve ever received a wedding invitation (or invitation to any other type of personal celebration) without my name on it. 

My opinion for what it’s worth, is I think you should design your own invitation with space for the names (that is what we did), or find a template with space for a name. Also, if nameless invites are an American thing, perhaps look for templates from non-American web sites.

Post # 12
858 posts
Busy bee

We just addressed the envelope to who it was too.. For Eg, Stacy + John. I think this is clear enough who is invited. If they have kids, people will automatically assume they can bring their kids. If you dont want kids, i would just advice that when they are rsvp.

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Post # 13
675 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@chronicwhimsy:  we didn’t do RSVP inserts either. Since we have two envelopes, one inner and one mailing, we put the names of those invited on the inner envelope. However, we’re having a destination wedding so we’ll know well in advance who’s coming. 

Post # 14
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

@chronicwhimsy:  I was planning to hand-write 100% of my template, with Western and Chinese ink calligraphy! 🙂 However, due to time constraints, I resorted to where there are gorgeous calligraphic fonts.

I did postcard invites, so we did not include RSVP cards at all.
However, our guests can contact us by:
– Phone (FI’s hand phone, in case creepy men tried to contact me randomly)
– Email address (I created one just for RSVPs)
– Our wedding website, where guests can RSVP on our website — linked to a Google Form. It’s super user-friendly. If you would like to see a sample of my invites, just PM me!

Post # 16
858 posts
Busy bee

@chronicwhimsy:  That is a fantastic cost! If i were crafty, i would do the same thing. Good luck!


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