We started dating in April 2012.
We moved in together (appartment) in September 2012.
We opened a joint account on October 2012 (we did not combine finances per se, but we do share and split money).
We got engaged unofficially in November 2012. And officially (had bought rings, and started to announce) in March 2013.
Our wedding is set for January 10th, 2015. That makes 1,2 to 2 year engagement.
– We can shop and split the expenses throughout the months/year. It’s easier to fit in our budget and leaves us more time to save.
– We do not feel pressured by time (if ordering a dress, looking for a vendor, etc.). And we do not have to rush to book any venue. Same with DIY : no stress, I’ll do it when I feel like it, I do not want to rush a week before wedding to finish everything.
– Discounts ! I’ll have all the 2013 Holidays (and the after-Holidays) to shop discount everything : accessories, shoes, decor …! Which I won’t have the time to do in December 2014.
– It honestly doesn’t feel serious, or that people take ous seriously, because they do not see it coming in together yet. Like @jdhall89: said, it somehow kills the fun. I know I’ll have fun when it starts to move on, deposits are paid, etc. But it does feel like we’re in a limbo for now.
– Too many options, too many possibilities to change your mind and want to buy other stuff, it’s endless. You really have to stay focussed on what you want and have a detailed budget written down !
– Unfortunately, I am not sure my grandparents will make it to 2015. 🙁
– Being both student (I am finishing my ph.D., FI just started a bachelor), it’ll most likely cut his student loans (scholarship) in half, and he already doesn’t get much. But I’ll be a worker by then, we’ll make it. And we also chose to delay our honeymoon a few months in order to save money and all. We want to go to Europe, it’s better to go in May or June rather than January anyway.