Bees who met their SO online: Who initiated contact first?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who initiated contact first online?
    I was the first one : (25 votes)
    34 %
    my SO was the first one : (48 votes)
    65 %
    complicated first interaction : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    2325 posts
    Buzzing bee

    bluesparkles:  Me, and he was the only person I ever messaged! I saw that DH had viewed my profile, but he didn’t message me. Normally I wouldn’t give a crap, but I thought he was cute so I clicked on his profile. I found out we had some very unique things in common and I just couldn’t resist messaging him. I was not taking online dating remotely seriously and never even expected to like anyone or meet them in person, so figured there was no harm in sending a message. I thought DH was out of my league, so I figured nothing would come of me messaging him but here we are. He still makes fun of my opening line of “I don’t know if I’m your type, BUT….” haha. Such a dork.

    Post # 3
    Member
    539 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    bluesparkles:  He did, i was just logging in to suspend my match.com account after too many crappy first dates – he was reactivating his account because he had messages that he couldn’t read since his account was deactivated and he was curious….he messaged me – we took it to fb messnager to chat since we were both on our way out and have been together ever since…LOL

    Post # 4
    Member
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I did. Of the 7 guys I met off the internet, I think I sent the first message to 2 or 3 of them. I had it set so I couldn’t see who looked at my profile and people couldn’t see when I looked at theirs. I totally cruised for guys, and when I found now-DH’s profile, I thought his pictures weren’t very clear, but he seemed smart and funny and like he loved TV as much as I do, so I sentvhim a message about TV. I was the first girl DH met with in person, and 3 years later here we are, lucky *******! 

    Post # 5
    Member
    2704 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    bluesparkles:  My FI msged me. I had met a few people off of a site and the dates were all flops. I was going to cancel my account, then FI messaged and I reluctantly agreed to meet with him. At that point I was soooo over online dating, and just dating in general, but he seemed well spoken, educated and nice so he was to be my last ever date… and he was! I was the second person he’d ever messaged and first person he met. Meant to be. 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    271 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - Antique Rose Emporium

    Hmm, well we had many mutual online friends, who kept suggesting we get to know each other. They knew we were both smart and sarcastic, but I didn’t want to meet a guy online, didnt want an LDR… he tried to initiate a conversation and I turned him down several times. They were right though, he was witty and even smarter than me, so I immediately “disliked” him…played hard to get, ignored him, etc. when in reality I was slowly falling in love with him. It became a game of sorts for him to tease me and tell me he would get me to fall in love. I finally opened up and admitted I had feelings for him, which was almost against my will considering I didn’t want him to have that satisfaction…but I couldn’t help myself! I loved his personality. We clicked. We dated online for a year before we first met in person, then after my freshman year of college I transferred to his school and moved from SC to TX. 6 years later, we are living together, he proposed in May and engaged to be married next May, on the 7th anniversary of him asking me out (over MSN messenger).

    Post # 7
    Member
    769 posts
    Busy bee

    I did. We were living in two different cities (he was in the city I used to live and wanted to move back to) so there was no way he would have ever found me as I was 3 hours away. I am so so glad I took the first step 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2328 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I went for “complicated”. I saw his profile on match.com but decided not to contact him because he appeared to be too similar (interests and general look) to another guy I had gotten to know online. We’d gotten really close online but as soon as we met up (even before we spoke) I knew nothing was going to happen, even friendship sadly. 

    But a few weeks later he poked me so I thought it would be rude not to poke back. We started emailing and the rest is history! We’be been together for 4 1/2 years now (married for just over 1)

    Post # 9
    Member
    479 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    He messaged me, but I also don’t think I ever messaged anyone.  I found that I had enough to go through just with the messages I was getting sent to me (not that I’m super attractive or interesting, there are just a lot of guys who send out blanket messages and you need to weed through them to find the real ones!).

    Post # 10
    Member
    220 posts
    Helper bee

    We met on myspace through his sons mother who, at the time, was a close friend of mine. I thought he was attractive and he thought I was attractive as well. She actually told him to message me. Which is super weird but it worked out. Here we are 5 years later, happy as ever. She’s out of the picture except whrn it comes to their son.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2006

    I was on match and gonna close my account out the end of the month when money I paid ran out. Match sent him as a good match did me.  I thought he was cute and messaged him. We emailed back and forth for 4 hours that night, than he asked if I’d meet him next night for a drink.. So I did!! I was his first and last date on match. We are now married over 7 wonderful years and have two beautiful kids!!!! 

    Post # 12
    Member
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I met my fiance online when a saw a video of a performance he did. I found his Facebook page, messaged him about something unrelated to the video and we started to talk. We decided to start s business together…haven’t done that yet, but in the midst of or relationship we started dating and he proposed after 9 months.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1321 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    He messaged me first. I honestly never messaged any guys first but i literarily had hundreds of emails in my inbox and they were all short(like: whats up, hi etc), copy n paste jobs and so on. Its a wonder i met him out of everyone. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    120 posts
    Blushing bee

    I had my OKC account set so that no one could see whose page I viewed and vice versa. But, OK cupid had just come out with a swipe Quickmatch that alerted the both people if  both parties “liked” or “chose” each other. thus, my SO messaged me after I liked him as a Quickmatch. We messaged for about a week  before we actually met. I’m still amazed that online dating WORKED lol. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    We actually were on a AOL chatroom for teens back in 2004, and we pretty much were drawn to each other during the coversation with the other people in the room. We liked the same things so I decided to send him a private message through AIM.

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