Post # 1
Did you show anyone pictures?? Tell anyone? I’m in the middle of getting my ring custom made & I’m SO excited & it’s so beautiful that I want to tell my closest friends & family but I’m worried that it will take the special & exciting factor out when we actually do get engaged. I’ve told my mom and niece about it & shown them a picture of the wax & stone but I don’t know if I should just leave it at that. I haven’t told any of my friends or anyone other than those 2 but at the same time I’m just so excited & isn’t a picture way different than the real thing anyway?
What did you/would you do? We won’t be getting engaged for at least 6 months so there is time for people to forget about it…but that could also be a bad thing because if they are expecting an engagement it probably won’t be as exciting when it finally comes.
Post # 3
Nope! We spent 9 months shopping for rings before we finally found The One, and then I left it up to him.
Post # 4
@soontobemrsm11: i only told my mother, and kept it a secret from everyone else!
Post # 5
I told one friend who lived in another state. I couldn’t keep totally quiet, but I also didn’t want everyone to know.
Post # 6
I went with FI and picked my e-ring…my 2 very best friends knew we were going. I didn’t take any pictures of the ring, but it’s basically the Tiffany Novo setting, and I shared the specs and design with them. It was too exciting to keep to myself! The ring took 2 weeks to be made, then another week to ship, and FI didn’t want to just propose immediately, so from the day he ordered the ring to when we got engaged was 30 days. It wasn’t any less exciting, because I didn’t know when he’d propose, I just knew he had the ring (it was totally kiiiilling me!). My parents didn’t know because they’re so traditional, they’d be too focused on being annoyed that I knew about the ring being purchased. If your ring is being made now, why are you waiting 6 months? That’s going to be tough :-/. I’d share the info with a few besties, and that’s it 🙂
Post # 7
Resist the urge! It’ll make it so much more exciting at yourengagement!
We didn’t really have a picture to show anyone since it was going to be custom made from 2 heirloom rings. We did have pictures of both rings before they got put together and the only person who say those were my MOH, who was helping my fiance get the ring together. And I’m so glad I got to show off my ring to everyone once we got engaged. Definatley helped get everyone excied and talking about the engagement.
Post # 8
Keep the secret 🙂 I had to keep mine secret for a week which was super hard to do! I can’t imagine doing it for any longer. Hang in there 😉
Post # 9
@soontobemrsm11: I wouldn’t tell anyone else. I think that people might feel like it’s ok to to comment more than if you actually had the ring on your finger, so you might get some upsetting comments. Kinda like if your kid isn’t born yet and you start sharing baby names.
And yeah, people might wonder why you’re not engaged yet. I don’t see why you’d tell more people.
I haven’t shown anyone pics of the rings we’re considering. I don’t see how it’s anyone’s business, and I’d only be telling them to show off, not to get opinions.
If I wanted opinions then I would ask, but it doesn’t sound like you want opinions since you’re in the process of having it made.
Post # 10
I’m pretty picky and had it down to 2 rings before leaving the final decision up to him. For the most part, I kept it to myself but did end up showing my mom, sister and best friend the choices just to get their thoughts. In the end, we all ended up liking the same one the most. Happily, it was the one SO could tell I preferred as well 🙂
Post # 11
@WhatMaeBee: I so do not want to wait 6 months! lol but we have discussed that we want to get engaged close to my college graduation which is in December. After my ring is done, we have to try to find my SO her ring as well which will probably take a few months because she hasn’t even started looking or getting a general idea yet. When we met with the jeweler to discuss the idea of custom making, we didn’t have the intention of deciding right then & there, we were going to go around to a few jewelers and get ideas and price ranges. Unfortunately I fell head over heels for the ring design & it was within our price range so we decided to just go for it with the agreement that it won’t push up the original engagement date plan. I’m THRILLED to be getting my ring but I think it’s going to make waiting SO much harder!
I’m glad some other bees did show one or two people. It was supposed to just be my mom but my niece has been in her relationship almost as long as I’ve been in mine & we’re both in the “an engagement is probably coming up within the year” stage so I just couldn’t resist telling her! I’m hoping she doesn’t tell anyone else though
Post # 12
@canarydiamond: Very good point, I would definitely be doing it just to show it off because I’m so excited. I would not be happy if someone made a negative comment after we’ve spent almost 6k on a ring!
Post # 13
I told just a few people, but didn’t show any pictures. I had a family heirloom center stone though, so a few people knew that already. Don’t worry what other people think, if you want to show your BFF I think that’s fine, just don’t post it on facebook before he gives it to you!!
Post # 14
@soontobemrsm11: That makes sense…same with us, we went looking, and I’ve heard of people looking for rings and going on multiple shopping trips…We happened to stumble upon a perfect stone and setting for us, and FI was all “Is it ok if I buy it, with you here?” We didn’t want to let it go, so he paid and the whole transaction was very open and honest. FI had told me he really wanted me to go w/him to pick it out, so being soooo excited, I had already gushed to the same 2 friends how I couldn’t wait. But, that’s also very me…I can’t hold back, very open with a lot, and it certainly didn’t take away from the “OMG” of the moment. Good luck!!
Post # 15
We bought the ring in Colorado, then moved to New York 3 days before he proposed. So he let me “borrow” it to show my friends at work. And my mom. And my sister… basically I showed everyone but my dad lol. I did not visit Colorado for about 6 months after he proposed, and I didn’t want to wait 🙂
Post # 16
I voted for the maybe option, but that’s only because it was closest to what I actually did.
I told a few of my close friends and my mom that my fiance and I had gone ring shopping, and that I picked out a ring. I didn’t give many specifics when I told them about it … I think I said it was an emerald cut diamond and the band was white gold with some additional diamonds.
I didn’t show anyone any pictures, though.
I think it’s a personal preference. I only had to wait about 2 months to receive my ring, so I really didn’t have to wait long to actually show it to people. I think if you want to tell some of your friends, that’s perfectly fine. It’s personal preference, though … If you’d prefer some sort of surprise when you show your friends, you could probably just give a somewhat generic description and tell them you’ll show it to them once you receive it. If you’re too excited to wait, though, I don’t think it’s a big deal if you show them a picture.